I struggle every day with loneliness - waking up and remembering AGAIN that my husband is not here and hasn't just popped out or gone away for a few days he is gone forever. The hardest of things to really accept. Not only am I missing the comfort and familiarity of his company and the part he played in my life but I am also lonely for our future, the relationship that might have been - all the things we might have done or become and how we might have grown together into full old age. As a lot of you say, the loneliness is not something that is taken away by being with friends or in the company of others, though of course, friendships and company are great things and can bring huge comfort sometimes. I was so unprepared for the many ways that grief and loss would affect me. But 10 months since John died and I am better than I was and still moving forward so despite getting ambushed by grief when I least expect it, I keep going in hope.