Hi Mike, I can't bear the thought of having Terry's ashes in the house or scattering them so we are going to have them interred in the cemetery in a couple of weeks & have a headstone, I have told the children I want to go along side when my turn comes even if it is 30+ years on, I'm 50 so I hope for their sakes its not soon, that would be cruel for them. I was going to have some of his ashes "grown" into a gem but have decided against it and have had our wedding rings & my engagement ring made into new piece, I tried wearing his wedding ring but I found it too painful as I could just picture on his finger. I have kept some of his clothes but can't bring myself to smell them - too painful. I have photos everywhere.