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Cairo:
Just over three weeks ago. He was in hospital but was expected to recover when he developed complications. The consultant wanted to transfer him to a specialist unit but they had no beds, so .i had to watch him in pain and not improving fir 10 days. Suddenly they decided to do an emergency operation but he never regained consciousness. I was with him in Intensive Care when he passed away but I doubt if he knew. I never got a chance to say goodbye and have so many questions about what happened. Even the doctors seemed shocked.

Dave Administrator:
Hello Cairo and welcome to BUK.

What a sad post to read, it must have been so difficult for you to write, my heart truly goes out to you.

How long were you together and did you have any children? The shock and the suddenness must be very hard for you to come to terms with and it's such early days your mind must be all over the place and taking you through it all again every day.

I can promise you though hard for you to believe at the moment Cairo, it does ease and with baby steps plus not pushing to have the brave face on for others, peace will return back in your life again.

Please keep posting don't try to go it alone and we will be here for you for as long as it takes.

Emz2014:
Sending a welcome hug from me too
Dave is right, it will take time but you need to be gentle with yourself.  Its a rollercoaster journey, but it does get easier to cope in time.  Keep talking with us xx

Cairo:
Thank you so much. I've had to deal with a few hardships in my life so I know I'll get through this eventually.

I'm getting a lot of practical support from friends and family but I'm not someone who finds it easy to share my thoughts with those around me, and my thoughts are in turmoil at present. I think I'll find it easier to write on this forum to people I don't know. Is that strange? I feel I should open up to my family but I've always been the strong one who comes with things and I know a lot of what I'm thinking would just upset them so I don't see the point.

To make matters worse I have an elderly dog who hasn't been at all well today. I'm going to take her to the vet tomorrow but I'm worried sick about her.

Emz2014:
 It does make sense, I found it easier to talk/open up here too

Hope your dog is ok, such a concern when they are not well xx

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