Hi Betts. I lost my husband 6 years ago. The world felt empty my life completely pointless, future gone - and it remained so for a long time.Hiding out in the lair is a natural reaction too hurt -Thats our instinct and we need time to heal before we can begin to think about the future so staying there is fine for as long as you need too.
I have not filled the gap he left, i expect i never will, but i have built a fence around it so i dont fall back into that pit.
This fence took some building over a long time, still has holes in it, and every so often a storm comes and blows big sections of it down -Some of it is hegerow grown naturally as in the real world.In the hegerow are flowers, and animals, that bring me solace i couldnt see them at first until a singing robin defied me to ignore it and brought the first brief moment of joy.
It is weaved together by a few people from my old life and more from my new life, including people from this site. pegged with a couple of new pastimes and a growing sense of purpose and direction
but staked firmly by my memorys of him, and my determination to live life for both of us.
Everyones hedge will be different but you will build one of your own,i hope coming here will be part of creating that, as it was for me.