Sjmac, sending you hugs! I lost my partner two months ago, he was 5 days away from his 44th birthday, way too young to say goodbye. I am still very inexperienced in the healing process, so I am perhaps worthless at giving advise at this stage, but I think the most important thing is try to open your heart to everything around you, even if it hurts or even if it feels like you shouldn't be doing it. Like Karena said, it's absolutely fine not to move the shower gel until the time is right.
Since I lost my partner two months ago, I've done so much! Traveled by myself for the first time, started going for meals out by myself (I only used to do that while on business trips before, but never just for a casual meal out by myself), went to probably 15 museum exhibitions across the country, started exercising more regularly, and also quit exercising too, read a lot, took on more responsibilities at work, went to a psychologist.. and the list goes on. I cannot sit still with all that pain, so I thought that if I try hard enough, the pain will go away. The truth is I am completely exhausted, feeling massively insecure about my life, no confidence that I will ever be happy again and no joy in any activity that I force myself to do. So I know that forcing yourself to do something different isn't necessarily helpful. So perhaps you still need to go through those feelings you are currently going through, give yourself more time, don't force yourself to get better now, because you feel it should be better already. You will get there