Welcome Donna,and very sorry for your losses,my mum died a few years before my husband ,and I also have an extended family,although kids are all grown up,and along with grandkids are scattered round so mostly its just me.I also work full time but am further down this horrid road than you at six years.For me the missing has never gone away but I have got much more used to filling the time on my own and functioning in the big world just by adopting coping tactics and deciding which battles to fight and which don't matter.My eldest lives in south Africa so travelling I have become comfortable with,but eating out or going to the pub alone alone never do.
You will find things move at a slower pace here but perhaps more in depth as posts don't move so quickly as on fb.But we do have the meets and as well as support through grief we have some laughs too.When I first came to the original BUK I wondered why there was a laughter emoje I couldn't imagine ever using it or laughing again but that turned out to not be the case.