There's your second positive there, watching and smiling at that toddler :-)
It is actually scientifically proven that focussing on, and documenting, positives start to focus the brain on noticing more positives - tuning in to them in a way. Even the smallest positive, such as making/having an amazing cup of coffee or just succeeding in getting out of bed and achieving a small chore some days, make a big difference when we notice and allow ourselves to recognise we've achieved/experienced a positive. There's a great TED talk which also covers part of this, I can send you details, if anyone would like to watch it (I'm finding some great talks on TED which can help inspire, motivate or make you feel a bit more hopeful)
Whilst this doesnt take away our loss, it helps to lift our spirits, even if just a little, which helps us to have the energy to cope and tackle things
I've been battling a lethargic, unmotivated and down feeling which keeps trying to descend/stay and do believe winter has some influence in this, I'm certainly not getting as much exercise, fresh air/sunlight as I think I need. Im trying to be kind to myself and eat well, rest when I need - knowing it won't be too long until Spring. Sending a hug hubby :hug:xx