Bad day

[Beth]

Hi all
Bad day today broke down at work twice it just hit me again like a steam train

[Emz2014]

Sending a big hug    it really is such a rollercoaster.   Just when we think we've got the hang of it, another emotion hits us in the face.  It takes time, and it seems ever so slow, we're here if you want to talk about it xx

[Beth]

It is a roller coaster so hard like uou said you think you've got it then bam. But it is early days so im guessing theses day will hit me

[Norma]

They will Beth, unfortunstely we dont always get a warning that were going diwn, but just remember hun, nothing can be worse than the day you lost him xxx

 

[Beth]

That is true that was a day ill never forget but wish I could

[Julie Magson]

I keep meaning to put some sunglasses in my handbag Beth as I never know when I'm going to come out of somewhere with swollen red eyes X

[Beth]

That's a good idea julie

[Brian71]

Yes Beth... you will still get moments when you become upset, and you fill up with tears,  it's natural.  I had such a moment last night when one lady at the social group I was talking to asked what had happened to my wife, and it's hard to explain as it starts you off again, and for a few seconds I could sense my eyes were getting a little tearful.   I've not been discussing it much during my 2 meeting with this group of people for that very reason.

However... I am trying,  but it will never go away, it just becomes more bearable with the passing of time.

You take care.

Best wishes.... Brian
 

[Hubby]

It's horrible the way grief suddenly ambushes us. If only we could have a bit of warning to prepare ourselves and get out of the way it would save a lot of embarrassment among company.

We could go to the loo and reappear ten minutes later, in sunglasses, and nobody would be any the wiser.

[Beth]

I'm a mess again tonight the tears won't stop

[Hubby]

They have to come out Beth. 

[Beth]

I guess so it's just so hard

[Brian71]

Sometimes it can be very hard indeed Beth,  I've just had a good tearful session myself.   Somehow we have to try and work through it, and hope tomorrow is better.
 

[Julie Magson]

When I'm crying I always try and remind myself that if they weren't flowing out then they will back up and explode out in some other way- I think the more that people can cry in the early days the easier it will be to 'recover' as far as we can. 

[Beth]

I do agree with that julie it does have to come out or you will explode