I'm sure I will likely receive the same Platitudes also Hubby, your last sentence probably sums up how we all feel on here.
I think had we known before hand that my wife had terminal cancer and a short time left to live I could have accepted that, but being told for 2 years all was clear, when it obviously was not, and even when she attends her last follow up appointment when they keep her in they are still saying she has a chest infection and continue treating her for a chest infection is unbelievable, right up to 2 days before she died.
When we arrived at the hospital for that last follow-up appointment my wife thought she may have a blood clot on her lung which might be causing her breathlessness, she could not believe it when they finally told us she had terminal inoperable cancer because they had been continually telling her she was clear. Also when someone tells you it's terminal, that does not necessarily mean you will be dead within 2 days. A neighbour of mine lived for 8mths after being told he had terminal cancer, but her records clearly show they knew she had literally days to live....2 days to be exact...but we were NEVER told that, that's why I feel so angry. Her records show they found tumours back in 2014, but never told us, instead she was given a clean bill of health. You don't get and die from Cancer in a few days, it takes time, she had been dying for almost 2 years and we didn't know, had we known I could have accepted that, but the abysmal way it happened...no I cannot, and never will....AIS, if it prevents it happening to someone else then it will have been worth it.