I know that feeling Helen, it was a little different for me but I was my husband's carer for more than 40 years and when he died I went from being busy all the time to nothing, I made all the decisions because of his illness but I lost that ability. Had mega problems trying to decide whether to have milk delivered or buy it when shopping. I also worked as general manager of a hire company employing only men so was used to taking control but I just lost it as I lost Colin. It does get better, it takes time and the missing never goes but the coping comes back. xx