Good evening Barney,I just wanted to offer my heartfelt sorrow on the loss of your darling husband, I truly know the of feeling of emptiness as this is all still new to me and I wonder if the pain will ever ease, I have found writing a journal - you know as if I was talking to Andy,a comfort - this may help you too? I am sure your step children were just thinking they were helping but "sorting" out his possessions maybe was a bit too helpful,and too quick,all too much is done in a rush,because that is what is expected of us,and by the that I mean the official side - registrar - funeral and the expectations of organisations to do everything "yesterday" fill in mountains of paperwork,family and friends sometimes think clearing quickly is best,thereby eliminating bit by bit the essence of the love of your life,you have Mike in your heart and your head and will always do so and many lovely memories,which only you have. Sending a hug