I just felt the need to thank the people here who are helping me to come to terms with the loss of my husband. It is nearly a year since he died and I still have what I call sledgehammer days. Because I feel as if I have been hit with a sledgehammer. Most days I keep busy and do whatever I can to avoid the grief but those odd days are truly harrowing. There you are you see I just intended to say thank you and I have deviated from my message because I know you will understand what I am talking about. But thanks again, this is the only place where people really 'get it'. Just have to get through one day at a time.