It is now just over four months since my husband of thirty six years died. The Children came home for Christmas and Boxing Day. Of course we had some sad bits but all in all we managed the first Christmas without him. Yesterday I unexpectedly met a "friend" who asked me how things were going. I told her the truth that I miss him very much and think about him all the time. She responded by saying "If that really is how you are feeling you need therapy. You need to see a counsellor". I thought that I was surviving and coming to terms with things but her remark really took me by surprise. Do I really need therapy? It seemed painful, but to me normal, to miss him and to think about him a lot, after all we were together for 36 years. Who is right?