Yes, this is perfectly normal, Nicki. You will find that there are sadly lots of people here who have lost their husband and to whom everything you describe sounds familiar. We all find loss hard to accept and adjust to and that will take time; probably a lot of it, but one tiny step at a time, you will find your way into your future. You have already started in having dealt with some of the practicalities that have to be sorted and you are talking to us, so you are trying to understand what you are going through and i am sure there will be people here who can help.
It is good that you have friends who are trying to help you, even if you do feel you may be the one comforting them. Most people find it hard to know what to say to someone who has suffered a close bereavement, but it is good that they are trying. It is good too that you are able to talk about your husband with them. You need to talk after going through something as terrible as this. Whatever you feel you may not be able to say to them, feel free to say here. We understand and will have experienced similar feelings and responses.
The heaviness that you feel in your chest is likely heartbreak and it will probably ease in time as you come to accept what has happened, but you are still very close to the time when you lost your husband so you will need to give yourself time.
Be patient and gentle with yourself and don't have any expectations, let alone expect too much of yourself. This process is different for everyone. It takes us all a long time to come to terms with and learn to live with. For now, it is enough to be able to get up and dressed and eat and drink enough and get through the day. I would not expect anything more for now. Gradually, you will move forward, but will do that at your own pace.
There is nothing harder to have to suffer in life than losing someone close, so take your time and slowly, you will start to heal. You can help that process in little ways. I found having flowers around and walking in the park helped me. The flowers helped raise my spirits a little, they are so beautiful and smell so lovely. The park I found to be a calming environment in which to sit and process my thoughts and feelings and I find the benches placed there in memory of people others have lost a comfort. It indicates to me that love goes on and those we have lost are still fondly remembered and loved.
I also found it helped to put together an album of favourite photos of the person I had lost. Some people like to put together a memory box with items special in relation to the person they have lost. Others create a memory book that they jot down accounts of their memories of their lost loved one in. Some use a jar for this and just write their memories on scraps of paper that they drop into it. Then they can pull one out at random when they are missing that person and relive the memory recorded on it. I also kept a journal of how I was feeling and what I was thinking about each day. I found that simply writing down how I felt, helped ease the burden of those feelings and later, I could look back and see how far I had come from those early days.
I found getting out of the house helpful too. I took up a new interest that the person I had lost had also enjoyed and found that took me out of myself and made me think about something else for a couple of hours each week. I also made some new friends through this and that helped too. Perhaps that is something you might want to think about doing a little further along this journey.
Revisiting places you enjoyed going to together can also help bring back the good memories more clearly and help you to focus on those rather than the more painful most recent ones.
Whatever you choose to do or not do and however you feel, it is all OK. Although many of us experience similar things, we all experience grief differently and find different things that help us. It will never be exactly the same for anyone, but I am sure lots of people will recognise much of what you describe feeling.
You are not alone and I am sure you will find some comfort here. Keep talking to us and that helps too.
Sending you an understanding hug..xx