Hello I first benefitted from the wonderful support from this group back in 2005 when I lost my Dad, I then revisited for a while in 2011 when I lost my Mum. Today I am back because on 7th of March I lost my Andy, he was my husband, we were married 32 years and we never finished our honeymoon. I know we all feel our partners were extra special and I haven't come here to tell everyone how wonderful he was. His passing was a huge shock as in November/December he was beig treated for a trapped nerve. It turned out this was due to collapse of a vertebrae as a result of Plasma Cell Leukemia, it only effects 1 person in a million, and we never even had the diagnoses until two days before he died. He was admitted to hospital on 2nd February with what we thought was dehydration and a chest infection and never came out. We were told he had suspected multiple myeloma after a week in hospital and then they were just telling us the "cancer" was more aggressive than first thought. When he passed in ICU he was in complete renal and respiratory failure and severe liver failiure too. To see him there with so many lines etc in was the most horrific thing I have ever witnessed, and the thing I am struggling to banish the image. He was only 60!
Our son still lives at home and my daughter a short distance away with her husband of five years. I also have a wonderful dog who we got a year ago today. She is actually a "Pets as Therapy" dog and has had a massive healing effect on us all.
I work in an elderly care hime nd the only thing I can think of now is why have they had so much longer than him? That is not like me at all as I am normally a very loving person and call my job my "soul food",
So that's it in a nutshell, I hope to chat and meet some of you soon x