:hug:bless you of course you are not useless,but no-one picks these things up overnight, it is a steep learning curve, for anyone let alone when you are exhausted through trauma like this,but gradually all these little practicalitys will become normal to you. As for the telling off I still can hear the tellings off when i take on something too heavy, and i can still hear him, laughing at me when i do something stupid.
its not just us either, My friend died just before Keith they were great friends with each other and Knowing i was always talking too him still, her husband rang one night and said can you ask Keith to ask Dot where she kept the kitchen scissors because she wont tell me she,s too busy laughing at me trying to cut bacon rind off with a bread knife.
But also i still refer to Keith for things, when the camper van breaks down, remembering the basic steps he went through to find the fault,when i,m trying to do some DIY what tool should i use, and occasionally i might have offered him a victory salute when i get it right just as i would have if he was here.Also thinking what he would have said in a situation, what he would have advised the kids about something,often by thinking like that i find the answers are more clear to me.