Hi Kirsty
I'm the same, the phone hardly rings, everything for everyone else is back to normal whereas I'm still living in a nightmare. I think before my husband died I hadn't a clue what grief was so I was like 'them' so I kind of understand and forgive them in their ignorance. I feel people don't ready want to hear about my feelings so here is a good place to air them and be truly understood. I'm also told I'll move on' eventually which I know is code for 'you'll find someone else'. It's very insensitive but I think people want us to find another so we're then sociably acceptable again and they don't have to deal with us and our grief. 5 months since my husband died and I'm starting to find a different normal, I don't accept it, I don't want it, but it's happening anyway. Just like grief itself. All we can do is take each day at a time and live in hope that long term, like others here reassure us, we'll find a way to deal with our loss without falling apart