I agree real world friendships have developed from this site,and sometimes without rejecting old friends new ones are more able to help and here because all of us do understand our own grief so even though everyone is different, between us it becomes a greater understanding. As Emz said our brain tries to protect us by only allowing us to process so much information at a time, and being in limbo is tiring,There is a well established greif theory about there being five stages -i,m not one for theories or being put into conveniant slots for the sake of societys apparent need to do so, - our grief is our own and the process is our own and there is no doubt everyone differs, but i do recognise that at some point we go through different phases from those five.
The last one on the list is acceptance,
many people see this as something that happens at the end of the process,a point at which we cut the bond and move on - -a "cure" i dont think it is at all.
Grief is exhausting and frustrating in the sense that we long to not be grieving any more even try and speed it up. I think its is acceptance of grief, acceptance that it takes time, there is no escape and no speeding it up.If you broke your leg there would be more acceptance that you have to lie up for a while then start moving slowly doing physio using crutches until you can walk again,that it will be a long time before you run a marathon.But you may always have a limp, you may always have an ache in that leg that worsens from time to time - but becomes part of you anyway -- Grief is the same but more difficult to accept and for others too accept in us, because we,re not in hospital, no-one sees crutches or plastercasts and so its a more lonely journey.
Also we want to heal and we want peace but dont want a "cure" the idea that we can be "cured" of missing some-one we love is plain silly,and at some point on the journey there can be pauses when we think actually i dont want to feel better because that would be a betrayal. laughing for the first time, enjoying something then feeling guilty because we shouldnt be enjoying ourselves, living life going somewhere new, doing new things, forming new relationships and it becomes a hurdle -"how can i do that when he cant, if i do then i,m betraying him."
Much later in history some-one came up with another theory, the theory of continuing bonds -when i found it, it was like some-one lifted a big weight, gave me permission to be myself.It doesnt see things in the same way,it doesnt have the goal of a "cure" Its not about breaking the bond with your loved one and moving on, its about those bonds changing taking a new direction as they are no longer present in the physical sense it has too but it isnt ever lost.
Some people do that through religion or belief in an afterlife, some do it by carrying that person forward with you -in your soul, thinking of them, living your life on their behalf, saying to ourselves, "what would they have said, what would they have advised what would they have done" and following their wisdom in your heart.
Grief is the painful process we go through as the change happens, but even though it remains with us, we will eventually find peace with the new direction our bond has taken.