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Bereavement Support Posts => Introduce Yourself To Us All => Topic started by: Fifebloke on April 02, 2016, 09:31:09 PM
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Found this forum tonight, I'm really struggling to come to terms with my 5 year old son passing away suddenly last month. He was really healthy and energetic and only turned 5 on feb 1st. Then he took ill on the 23rd before losing the fight a day later. We later found out it was flu that was the cause. Common flu. Even though he was vaccinated against it.
To say I cannot begin to come to terms with it is an understatement. I see him in my mind every minute of the day and when I close my eyes at night. I dread going to bed but dread waking up even more. My while life is a living nightmare and tbh I long to be with him again, as I am just an empty shell of a man these days.
But hopefully here can provide me with some help and some advice
Thank you
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I am so sorry for your loss. You must still be in shock after losing him so suddenly and so young
Sending a big hug, you will find a supportive group here, we have all lost loved ones. Please keep talking with us, it does help xx
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Forgot it was April, it was February 24th we lost him but been the worst 5 weeks of my life since then
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So so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of :hug:
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Hello and welcome Fifebloke to BUK.
In all the nearly 16 years we've had this group, it's always one of the hardest things to read when such young children are taken from their parents leaving them devastated and unconsolably broken hearted.
Please accept my very deepest sympathy, I cannot begin to imagine how painful it is for you right now in such early days.
Posting regular here all your emotions and thoughts that keep you awake no doubt, will benefit you so much with your healing process and you will make great friends here who will support you and listen with understanding and compassion.
We have a live chat room as you may have seen at the top of the page and that can be a lifeline during the evenings when the going gets tough and you need to chat.
Stay with us F, we are all here for you on your difficult journey I promise.
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We're all together in our grief here and I keep asking myself whether mine is less or more than anybody else. It isn't, it's just different - my deepest sympathy to you.
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I am so, so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. I wish I could write something to ease the terrible pain you must be going through. My thoughts are with you and your family. :hug:
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Thank you for the kind words everyone. Sitting here at the moment looking at photos crying my eyes out
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Thank you for the kind words everyone. Sitting here at the moment looking at photos crying my eyes out
And who can blame you FB heartbreaking and coming to terms with the reality is a non awakening nightmare.
Maybe when your feeling a little stronger you can post a picture of your beloved little boy for you to share with us all.
Keep posting anyway it helps trust me.
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Sure here is just one of the many photos I have
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It doesn't happen often that I'm lost for words but no wonder your crying FB, what a beautiful smiling little boy your Billy is in this most treasured picture.
You RIP little one :candle:
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My heart goes out to you Fifebloke, nothing anyone can say will take your pain away, I cringe when i hear the term its only a virus, because i know how devastating a virus can be, just as you do hun, My son caught a virus, that attacked his heart. So hun all im going to say is please keep talking to us we will always be here for you, and look after yourself you need strength to get you through these early days xxx
:hug: :hug: :hug:
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Thank you for sharing your treasured photograph of your son. He looks so happy with that cheeky grin on the fairground ride. Precious memories like this are what help us to get through our days of grief and are the true legacy of our loved ones.
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What a gorgeous boy, a beautiful picture :hug:
Its a painful journey, but we are here to help support you. Take little steps and rest when you need to xx
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Hi again I thought I would share a poem I wrote at 4am in the morning after Billy left us. If anyone would like to use it then certainly please feel free to do so
We have never known so much pain
Knowing we will never hold or kiss you again
Taken from us with no goodbye
To be the brightest star in the sky
Our comfort is your safe from harm
Cuddling into gods loving arms
We love you Billy and always will
Until we meet again, with your memories, our hearts we fill
Xxxxx
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That is a lovely poem,you should keep a copy,i wrote poems in the early days, i found that writing lines in a structured way also helped structure the thoughts that were all jumbling in my head.
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That was a lovely poem. It captures the feelings of loss perfectly and I can certainly see its emotions applying to what I am going through. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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Feeling really down tonight found one of Billy's favourite toys earlier and have been feeling really awful ever since then. Is this how it's to be now, every time I remember something or find a certain item that's going to trigger memories
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I promise you hun in time you will welcome the things that give you pain now, but please dont rxpect this change to be soon xxxxxx
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Fifebloke, my heart really goes out to you. Sending you lots of :hug:
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My heart goes out to you. Our loved ones favourite objects can be a bit of a double edged sword. They remind us of happy times and this, in turn, reminds of our loss. I try to remember the happy times but it is really hard at this stage to stop myself breaking down when I find something with happy memories attached.
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Thats a lovely poem, The words so moving xx
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Thank you Norma, as said if anyone wishes to use it, please do, obviously just change the name
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Fifebloke - I cannot imagine the pain, losing a child from of all things the flu is a wake up call as to how fragile life really is. I saw his picture and read the poem. All I can send is a hug and hope you stay close to this forum with such caring people. :hug:
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Bumping this for sarah on chat