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Title: Mum
Post by: ourtined on April 06, 2017, 01:14:40 AM

Hi, my name is Tina and I lost my mum on Sunday. I feel guilty. She had cancer but we thought her operation had been successful. 3 weeks ago she was in agony. In hospital and nothing would help her pain. It seemed the cancer had come back with avengence. In her last 3 weeks she had a lot of drugs and it was difficult for her to communicate. We didn't get to talk. Once I knew there was no hope I just wanted the drugs to ease the pain but I feel now that I let her down. I feel like I just gave in and let the cancer take her. I sat with her at the end. It doesn't feel real it happened so quick. I'm 44 and she was 82. I think talking about it might help. Thanks Xxx

Title: Re: Mum
Post by: Norma on April 06, 2017, 07:29:30 AM

Welcome Tina sending you a

 :hug:

Title: Re: Mum
Post by: Emz2014 on April 06, 2017, 08:14:11 AM

Guilt is often a normal part of grieving, try not to be hard on yourself  :hearts:

Sending a hug  :hug: xx

Title: Re: Mum
Post by: Runaway on April 22, 2017, 10:49:09 PM

Hi Tina.  I too have just lost my mum, so sorry to think we are in the same boat.  Just a thought, might be worth asking to speak to her doctor if you have any questions or worries about the medication she was having.  It might put your mind at rest,  or at least help you to process it too.  Take care, Runaway.