BEREAVEMENTUK SUPPORT FORUM
Bereavement Support Posts => Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room => Topic started by: Debbie1970 on February 04, 2017, 02:13:10 PM
-
Hi I just wanted to see what signs others may have had from loved ones. When I have been upset since losing my daughter in dec 2016 I have kept hearing bird song and seeing individual birds in my garden I feel like its a sign as Lily wrote she would love to be able to fly if she could choose a special power. Not sure if this is right but it makes me smile when I see or hear them. :hug: to all who need one
-
I had something strange happen to my mobile. I had been thinking of my dad, went to make a phonecall on my mobile, went on to the contacts screen which has 9 thumbprint photos with the names above for my favourite contacts. Went on that screen and every single thumbprint/name had changed to my dad. I thankfully took a screenshot to capture that moment. Shortly after it returned to normal, 9 different pictures/names and has not happened since xx
-
When my mum passed (12 years this coming August) I felt a prescence, I thought it was my husband stood behind me but when I looked, there was no one there! I then felt a warmth I had never experienced before. Since then I have felt that mum is in a good place.
Since dad passed away (16/01/2017) I was busy at home and I felt someone as if they pushed at me on my side. In the past I have experienced this before but the other day it was a bit rougher.
Each time it happens, I turn to see if there is anyone there and there isn't !
-
I have had lots of signs,but when I lost my hubby , the first time I really smiled or noticed the sun shining was a robin singing so loud and so persistently it really did feel like a message.We had rescued one a few years earlier and it had become a real character in our garden coming into the house and later bringing its baby's along.But I had been forced to move so hearing this robin singing made it feel like even more of a message,he would have known it was a guaranteed way of getting my attention and getting me to notice anything outside the dark veil that I had wrapped myself in since losing him.
-
I got myself all upset in the clothing section of ASDA when I found myself absent mindedly looking at clothes to buy for my wife after she had passed away. Then I looked down and on the floor and as a poppy keyring exactly the same as the one she always had attached to her handbag. Maybe it was a coincidence but it gave me a lot of comfort. I picked it up and it is now in my memory box.
-
I think that it's what we all long for (whether secretly or not :smiley: ) and I've had a few moments when I felt that Chris was next to me for instance, on one occasion just after I had got into bed I felt a soft stroke across my hand.
Is it just our minds/senses playing tricks on us - I don't know, I think it's possible but if that's what's happening that's fine I feel comforted anyway.
-
I think that's the point,none of us really know the logic says no the heart says yes,but grief isn't a set of data,a logical order if anything it demonstrates the differences and the unpredictability of life's journeys so going with the heart seems to me to be the most logical thing to do.
But even from a purely logical view While traditional physics tells us one thing quantum mechanics teaches us that it is not so straight forward and invites us to consider things we may have ruled out before.
-
I think that's the point,none of us really know the logic says no the heart says yes,but grief isn't a set of data,a logical order if anything it demonstrates the differences and the unpredictability of life's journeys so going with the heart seems to me to be the most logical thing to do.
But even from a purely logical view While traditional physics tells us one thing quantum mechanics teaches us that it is not so straight forward and invites us to consider things we may have ruled out before.
-
I have a playlist on my phone, I can almost guarantee the 2 special songs will come on, it's a long playlist, many hours so I'm sure these songs come up as a sign...
-
I had that happen the first time I went back in our campervan I was wondering if I,d made a mistake thinking I could carry on on my own and had pulled into a layby,arguing with myself about whether to just turn round and go home when a song came on that wasn't a particular romantic one but one we always both sang along too on previous trips but as its an old van, it had been on tape.My daughter had loaded the iPod I didn't even know it was on there and had it on shuffle, but it was almost like I was being told the answer to keep going.
-
I've had a few unusual things today, the 1st anniversary would be the 29th, today a blackbird was on the shed roofing watching me for ages, then the lights were flickering, lastly tonight the bathroom light wouldn't come on, yet when I tried it hours later it did. None of these things have happened b4, I'm sure it must be him...i hope so, I'd love to know he's here with me... Might just keep me going.. 🙁😕💔
-
:hug:I would have signs and believe then thinking it was co incidence,imagination etc would take over but in the end I could as good as hear him shouting what do I need to do to prove I,m here,just as he once said what do I have to do to prove I love you.So now I just quietly acknowledge him,say hello,say I love you send him a smile or a wave.
-
I had a sign last week, i opened a tin of dog food and the ring pull broke off so i had to do it old school! With a can opener. I cut my finger on the can in the process. That made me think of the time when i was 7 and i cut my thumb opening a tin and a lady was trying to sell my mum a small fire extinguisher. She offered to spray my thumb!! My mum made excuses and sent her packing. Just that one incident made me smile asi tended to my finger.
-
Does anyone know if a blackbird is a sign from heaven? It's the first anniversary today and hes been on the shed roof watching me again, he was on the birthday and 1 other time since...
-
Does anyone know if a blackbird is a sign from heaven?
I can't answer that loteg but my take on these things is that our loved ones stay with us and every now and again something serves to remind us of that. That's near enough a sign for me :smiley:.
-
Yea, seems a good way of thinking.. ☺
-
The blackbird is recognised in neo paganism as a symbol the represents the soul,and in older beliefs as a spiritual guide.I can't answer for sure there is no sure,but I do know if it was me I would be putting food out and encouraging him to hang around,they can be very uplifting and come back for several years,i have one that i fed as an abandoned fledgling who follows me round the garden.so whether its a sign or not that companionship and the smile a singing one can bring is very valuable just by itself.
-
That's good enough for me.. The day hasn't been so bad, I was dreading it and built it up so much in my head...
-
:hug:glad it was bearable,I think a few of us here find the build up is worse than the day.
-
When my husband Charles' ashes were delivered to me at home something happened. After the man left, I just stood there crying so much. The radio was on and suddenly one of his favourite song started to play. James Galway "Home Away from Home". I took this as a sign that he was now back home and happy. And now I want to keep him here. But that is another problem that I have sort out.
I also remember when my Mum died, I felt her very close to me one evening, It was a comfort just like Charles' song.
Any kind of comfort has got to be good I think.
-
A documentary about India recently on the tv said how Hindus believe that crows are the spirits of our forefathers.My ears instantly pricked up.
When George passed away l began to walk my sister in law's dog (which he used to do) in the nearby woods four days a week, to give me A distraction. I also started feeding the crows I would see there each day. They all have their own territories
The crows are 6 different pairs and have come to recognise me from quite a distance, (must have great eyesight) flying toward me for their food.
I now like to think that those crows least disturbed by the dog's presence, coming within touching range of me may possibly be spirits from my past.
One in particular is very up front, curious, handsome and bold.
-
I have the one blackbird that sits either on the shed roofing or the tree, it just watches me...i like to think it's my loved one...
-
How lovely Rosaleen. Who knows hey!
I'm seriously think about getting a pet..early day though.