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Title: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 03, 2016, 01:39:05 AM
What I wouldn't give to be able to snuggle down in bed for a cuddle!!

Forget the early years of not being able to keep your hands off one another  :grin: .

What I miss is just snuggling down in bed and having someone there at the side of me. A goodnight kiss and a hug.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Norma on April 03, 2016, 11:36:58 AM
You will learn to live with it Longedge, but it does take time, as for the cuddle know its not the same but i bougt a body pillow and put one of my hubbys pj top on it, least the bed didnt seem to empty xx

 :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 03, 2016, 11:50:55 AM
Morning is here again and I'm feeling just as morose as I was at 2a.m when I finally go into bed to listen to a book. At least that always puts me to sleep  :smiley:  Now the sun is shining and I'm going to get the lawnmower out so I'll feel OK for a few hours.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Emz2014 on April 03, 2016, 12:18:29 PM
 :hug: it's important to have hugs from friends if you can, I know it won't replace your beloved, but hugs are good for us
There's always a virtual hug for you here xx
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 03, 2016, 03:10:03 PM
Thank you both  :heart:  Lawns look better. So now I think it's time to go and see my brother/sister-in-law coz I happen to know they've just put the kettle on  :coffeetoast:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Karena on April 03, 2016, 07:37:23 PM
 :hug: sending a virtual hug from me too.I still miss hugs but have to confess the dog got to sleep in my bed from very early on.He doesn't have cold feet but he does have a cold nose and is equally able to steal the duvet and take up all the space.
So rare to be fine on a day off but being in the garden helps I find.Am currently relocating my pond so back breaking work I,dug up and relocated two hazel shrubs and dug half a hole,but lots to do before that project is finished.lighter nights will help too,I hate coming home to an empty house but its worse in the dark when I can't get out in the garden.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 06, 2016, 12:10:25 AM
Midnight once more has come and gone
And I still sit forlorn and all alone,
remembering.

An echo of past happy times
May offer some relief from pain
remembering.

Did I say loved, no love is what I should have said
I know I do - I am
remembering.

She is not gone, she's with me still
and all she loved I love as well
remembering.

It's time to sleep, if sleep will come
but if not,then no matter, I'm
remembering.

Good night all  :heart:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Karena on April 06, 2016, 01:50:31 PM
beautiful  :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 12, 2016, 01:53:36 AM
Six months come and gone
2am and I'm here alone
or am I, no
she's here with me
watching what I do
she can't speak but I feel her
near, loving as she ever was
sleep my darling she says
and know that I love you
- I love you too
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Cairo on April 12, 2016, 05:39:12 AM
So beautiful. Tears in my eyes now.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 12, 2016, 10:51:49 AM
There's something about the second half of a bottle of wine that makes me want to put what I'm feeling into words. Chris would be astounded - not like the other me at all. Ho hum better get some breakfast. Completely forgot to take my tablets yesterday morning so perhaps I should do that first  :whistle:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Cairo on April 12, 2016, 01:35:22 PM
Had to re-read that as it sounded as if you'd had the second half of a bottle of wine before breakfast :)

I assume you had the wine and wrote the poem the previous night, and you're now on breakfast?
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Karena on April 12, 2016, 01:54:26 PM
2am -in the poem so i,m guessing it was very early breakfast or there was a gap.

Longedge i was suprised when clearing out the garage to find a poem my husband had written shoved in a box. I have no idea when he wrote it, possibly at the beginning of our relationship I have a verse from it printed out on a background of our favourite holiday spot at sunset, complete with own and dolphin on the wall at work,as a sort of inspirational guide when i,m having a bad day.
"fly to the future round hurdles and bends
and ride out the storms that nature sends
despite tattered feathers and tired wings
never forget that every bird sings"

so write away with or without wine because i think poetry is healing to write as well as to read.


Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 12, 2016, 02:35:31 PM
I assume you had the wine and wrote the poem the previous night, and you're now on breakfast?

 That's right :heart:  I tend to sleep when I feel the need rather than at a fixed time. I'd opened a bottle of red last night and once open the bottle usually gets finished! For some reason as I get to the bottom of the bottle, nowadays I feel the urge to put my thoughts into words :laugh:.

I finally got to bed just before 3am and listened to my book for half an hour (well I set the timer for 30 minutes but actually heard about 20 minutes).


Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Spaicer on April 12, 2016, 09:15:38 PM
Lovely  :hug:
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Post by: Soleil on April 18, 2016, 08:40:06 PM
Best I can do.  :hug: :)
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on April 28, 2016, 10:34:39 PM
she didn't call me darling, why did I say that
it was always hun or honey sometimes not even that
I still hear her voice and now I've felt her touch
soft across my fingers in the early hours
her cool touch lingers - I know you're there
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on September 22, 2016, 12:50:39 AM
I don't know why it is but every now and again I just feel the need to blurt out my feelings -------------

If I could stroke your cheek
just softly kiss you, for a moment
would I be gratified or sated
no for I forever hunger for your touch

If I could just enfold you
in my arms, and whisper
how I love you, how I miss you
would I then be peaceful, no not I

If I were able would I go back
to those days so long ago
when I first knew you, oh yes
in an instant, if only it could be so.

--------- if only I could turn the clock back to about 1964 and do it all again!!
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Norma on September 22, 2016, 12:13:32 PM
Thats a lovely verse,  says it all doesnt it, even the year 1964 xx

 :hug:
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Post by: colin on September 22, 2016, 03:28:06 PM
Hi,
   The words in the verse are spot on,I like you all miss my darling Pat so so much,it's nearly 6 dark lonely heartbroken months since I lost my precious,she was and still is my only love,miss her every single moment.We will be re-united again one day happy and in love once more but this time it will be forever .
                                            Colin.
Norma remember what you told me when I joined,take baby steps.xx :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on September 22, 2016, 04:38:13 PM
Norma remember what you told me when I joined,take baby steps.xx :hug:

Wise words indeed, I'd still love to take a bloody great huge one back in time though  :smiley:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: alan2273 on September 22, 2016, 04:42:32 PM


Wise words indeed, I'd still love to take a bloody great huge one back in time though  :smiley:
I would give anything to step back in time
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Norma on September 22, 2016, 05:16:44 PM
I do remember the take baby steps, mine have grown to a normal step now.still dont see much thats happening around  me, daydreaming of where id rather be. 1964 was a good year xx

 :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on September 22, 2016, 06:01:11 PM
1964 was a good year xx :hug:

For us too. Rather shy and just getting to know one another, awkward at times but full of hope for a bright future which we both new, even then, would be together ....  big sigh!!
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on October 04, 2016, 10:58:13 PM
I mentioned in another thread that I was listening to a song by Boz Scaggs "Fly Like a Bird". I still am - it ends :-

A calm will descend
And there's peace at the end
Of the darkest night
Sometimes I cry
Sometimes I fly like a bird
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Hubby on October 04, 2016, 11:50:56 PM
Wish I could fly like a bird at night. At this stage it's when I do most of my crying.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on October 13, 2016, 12:00:10 AM
I nearly posted to another thread - but I don't want to 'rain on the parade' as the saying goes. Only a few days to the end of my first 12 months and just a couple of weeks after Chris died, our ShihTzu "Suki" collapsed several times over a couple of days. I took her to the vets and she had to be put to sleep. When I was in the surgery with the vet I think it was the first time in my life that I tried to but couldn't speak. Chris had just left me and now I was saying yes to Suki being put to sleep. It was the first time in my life that I broke down in tears. I still can't believe that until that moment I had held myself together and it was the loss of our dog that broke me.....
Title: e: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: marvil296 on October 13, 2016, 07:22:40 AM
Hi so sad to lose your dog so soon after Chris.THe first year is so hard .I don't know how I would  have managed If I didn't have my wee dog to keep me company, and to give me cuddles, and take for long walks.Now my mum passed last Sunday and its so much worse again as I'm grieving for the both of them my soulmate and my bestfriend.I have such lovely memories of them both.The only comfort I have is they will be looking after each other in  heaven.Take care.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Brian71 on October 13, 2016, 10:59:42 AM
Well I had one of my worst crying sessions late last night,  I was just deep in thought about Ann,  I've been trying to mix more socially in recent days, and though it does help, albeit only temporarily,  deep down I think I'm merely kidding myself, those dark thoughts returned really strong last night too...and still with me this morning...not good.

I'm trying, I really am, but the reality is I'm struggling to see any future,  there is nothing any more.  I feel really depressed today and I know what my wife would be saying now "Come on you Wimp"
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: marvil296 on October 13, 2016, 02:18:27 PM
Hi Brian Its hard socially.Its all couples I was like you I struggle to.I always declined and made excuses not to go.Ive got a bit better recently.But It takes time.I to was very depressed after my lovely husband died,I couldn't see a future either.But I don't know when really but it just changed one day.I think going out walks with my wee dog helped me.You always meet people.It stops you shutting yourself away.I did that to.My husband was my life to.I met him when I was 17 and we were together 30 yrs,Then he died suddenly when he was 51.All our plans went out the window,Its so hard but You will have good days and bad days.Anne would want you to carry on for her.As I said she will be by your side but you cant see her.A favourite saying of mine is Love is like the wind.You cant see it but you can feel it.Hold on to your happy memories.Hope you have a better day soon.Take care. :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Julie Magson on October 13, 2016, 03:47:25 PM
I'm sorry you're feeling so hurt today Brian. I think I understand what you are saying. I keep having good ideas that I 'should' be doing to try and help myself but then the thought scares me and I feel worse for a bit thinking that my future has no hope if this is what I'm going to be like. I think you ought to give it a go, maybe just one where they meet for a drink or a meal as they will be like minded with you- people who want that sort of thing. You know it will always be there even if it's not right at this stage. Try just for a pub and a drink and see what you think?
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Hubby on October 13, 2016, 09:52:45 PM
Sorry you've had a bad day Brian. We have these ups and downs and I believe they are truly random. We search for triggers and reasons and it's easy to jump to conclusions like we are 'kidding ourselves'.

Rebuilding a social life is going to be really difficult after the years we have spent dedicated to one person. I am trying and, like you, nights out help temporarily but then it's back to the loneliness of the next day. That doesn't mean going out isn't good for us. You could look at it as meaning we need to go out more  :undecided:

Strangely the Leeds day out when we met was one if the days out that cheered me up for a few days. I put that down to us all being in the same boat so we didn't have to try so hard.

Chin up mate.

 :hug:

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Post by: Hubby on October 13, 2016, 10:59:48 PM
Sorry George.

I remember reading your post about Suki last night and thought I had replied. I lost a few posts last night due to being in a rush and refreshing the page before the replies half uploaded.

I can see how you would feel broken by the death of your dog. When I was younger I couldn't understand people getting attached to animals to the point of tears when they died. Then again I didn't have a pet. I've lost quite a few pets over the years cats, budgies, Guinea pigs, rabbits, snakes and all have left me upset in varying degrees but Billy us my first dog and I know I would be absolutely devastated to lose him.

To lose a loved pet a few weeks after losing a partner just as the numbness is wearing off would be enough to reduce anyone to tears.

Man hug

 :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on October 13, 2016, 11:49:17 PM
Man hug  :hug:

Thanks Hubby  :hug:  :smiley: .  Suki was our second Shih Tzu. When I had to take our first, "Charlie" to be put to sleep, I swore I would never have another dog purely because it was so devastating for me. I was outvoted by the family  :cheesy:. The sad truth is that we outlive our pets. For me last year the cumulative effect of two losses was completely debilitating for a while.

Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Brian71 on October 14, 2016, 02:53:33 PM
Sorry to hear about the sad loss of your beloved pet George,  I don't have one myself,  but can well understand how one can get very attached to them indeed, they become one of the family and our love for them is the same too.
I remember how my wife and I shed many tears when we lost Brandy our Yorkie some years ago,  and also tears when Westi our budgie passed away.   So...in a way...a double whammy for you.

Do you intend getting another one George ?     I had thought about it myself,   but I'm getting older and my own walking is not that brilliant these days,  plus I'm thinking... with me liking to get away fairly often that could be an issue too, and so I decided it would be kinder not to go that route.
You take care my friend.
 A man-hug from me too.   :hug:
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on October 14, 2016, 05:45:37 PM
Thanks Brian. No I won't be having another dog as I wouldn't be able to look after one properly.

When we first got her (about 15yrs ago now) we talked about insurance and decided not to take a policy out. She cost us a fortune in vet's bills over the years, both her cruciate ligaments ruptured and each operation cost the best part of 1,000 and on another occasion she was taken mysteriously ill. We took her to the vets and she was kept in for obs and X-Ray. The vet rang us and asked whether we were in the habit of giving her mice. Her biggest treat was to have a small rubber squeaky mouse. She could de-squeak one is seconds but then would tear them into tiny pieces. She used to go berserk if she heard a new one being squeaked. Anyway we confirmed that she did play with them occasionally and we were told that she had got 2 in her stomach and 1 lodged in the top end of her intestine. Another 1,000 went on that and I've still got the 3 mice!  :smiley:  We worked out that the oldest must have been in there for over a year. Their eyes were missing so they were 3 Blind Mice.
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Post by: Brian71 on October 14, 2016, 09:17:24 PM
I must admit she does look cute George,  with regard to vet bills...yes I know they can cost a fortune,  I remember the costs involved with our own two dogs in the past,  one time was when our neighbour gave the dog part of a chicken and a bone got lodged in his throat, it cost me 220 for a operation to remove it and that was years ago.

I was just telling my daughter about your dog as she phoned while I was reading your post, and she started telling me how much she spends on vets fee's for Leo her very elderly Labradore cross, who's 16 or 17 now, saying it costs her in total 110 every 3mths for the medicines and vet visit he has to have.   He has a massive tumour, indeed it's amazing he's survived as long as he has,  but he's been a most loyal and friendly dog for many years,  I think he was only a puppy when they 1st had him, so she will be very upset I'm sure when his time arrives.

You take care my friend.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: longedge on October 14, 2016, 11:13:31 PM
I didn't mention that Suki had been diabetic for nearly two years as well. I had to inject her every day and the insulin and syringes were quite a heavy ongoing cost. Ah well - we love them don't we. She was actually 'mummy's dog' and afterwards when I started to think about what had happened I realised that I was very grateful that Chris didn't have that to go through as well. It was just a tiny consolation.
Title: Re: Oh for a cuddle.....
Post by: Hubby on October 15, 2016, 12:43:49 AM
I wish billy looked as cute as that. He's normally snarling like in the picture attached.
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Post by: longedge on October 15, 2016, 08:45:56 AM
nah... that's a doggy smile Hubby  :laugh:
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Post by: Hubby on October 16, 2016, 11:00:18 PM
I think it is but it's also he same face he pulls before he tears into his lead and, on a few occasions I haven't got my arm out if the way quickly enough, me. Lol
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Post by: Karena on October 17, 2016, 07:23:42 PM
Ouch.
I just got a nip off a neighbours dog.pure accident I was playing with it with a toy and it caught my finger.Next week
I,m having a Labrador to stay for a few nights next week it  could be interesting as he,s only met me once and in passing,and not been left with anyone before.
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Post by: Hubby on October 17, 2016, 10:39:34 PM
im sure you and the lab will love your time together Karena.
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Post by: Karena on October 18, 2016, 07:30:08 PM
I hope so cos standing on his back legs he,s bigger than me. :rofl: