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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: Julie Magson on July 28, 2016, 03:32:51 PM
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This would be doable for me but not at this time- couldn't face a train journey- still too raw to cope with that!
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Ill be there Eileen. Looking forward to meeting the durham/darlington group lol xx
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Or some other beverage lol
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I'd love to go to a meet but can't commit as things can change at home at the last minute.
So... Maybe.
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Sounds good to me,not sure if I can get there by 10 will have to check times but I can always catch up with you.
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I might be up for it.....
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Rosaleen thats great be lovely to see you again xxx
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Thanks Norma, when I saw your first post about going that sort of decided me.
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I might be able to show my face for a bit.
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Yay looking forwards to seeing you again.
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You too Karena.
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Can't commit till nearer the time but I will try. Might not be able to make it for 10 tho. x
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Yay penny too.you and I might have to be fashionably late. :rofl: but at least I won't have to leave so early this time.
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Yay penny too.you and I might have to be fashionably late. :rofl: but at least I won't have to leave so early this time.
Better late than never :laugh: xxx
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Prezactly. :rofl:
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Just half an hour with you all will do me thank you very much xxxxx
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Half an hour ,how many bottles of prosecco is that. :rofl:
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Karena please you know very well only 1 bottle per half an hour lol. I mean the pictures of me stood at the side of the prosecco mountain in meadowhall soon saw them away no problem lol xx
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You mean the pile of empty giant bottles,and we,d only been there 10 minutes . :rofl:
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LEEDS DAY MEET 1st OCTOBER
Hi all you lovely peeps, we'd like to remind everyone about the above event, and we would appreciate more definite numbers please, so could you please confirm your attendance, everyone is welcome, We will meet at The White Rose Cafe/Bar in the station near the entrance, where we will wait until 10.45. We then plan to go to Hotel Chocolate (opposite Yates's on the corner of Boar Lane/Albion St) and will remain there until 12 noon for late attendees. We then plan to take a stroll around the canal area (weather permitting) Eileen and myself are more than happy to give you our mobile numbers in case of emergency or late arrival, just pm either one of us. Anyone who knows Leeds can they suggest anywhere for lunch catering for all tastes, price ranges and if there is an age limit please, after lunch we thought it might be nice to browse around the numerous shopping arcades. Were looking forward to meeting everyone, and enjoying a lovely day out together making new forever friends. Xx
Plus im sure i remember a little birdie mentioned a chocolate goodie treat lol xxx
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Sounds like a great day planned :-) wish I could make it xx
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I wish you could as well hun, be just what you need to unwind after all the studying youre doing xxx
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I don't go into the centre of Leeds so am not sure what eaterie places there are without googling restaurants.
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Was thinking more like somewhete to eat around the canal area Joann, but are you coming hun xxx
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I would love to go to the meet.
It's my meeting with the NHS trust over Margarets treatment the day before. I've been blocking out the events in the hospital but in counselling yesterday I went through some if them and it was extremely upsetting. At the meeting I will have to go through them in minute detail so don't know what kind of state I am going to be in afterwards so unfortunately won't be able to commit until the day itself. :undecided:
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Hey hubby that's fine we do undersatand, just remember you will be among friends who care, if you like i will send you a pm with my mobile number so you can let me know at a minites notice if necessary. And you willbe able to meet up with us xx
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Unfortunately I'm up in Inverness in Caravan on side of Lock Ness for a lonely week starting 1st Oct, otherwise I would love to have come to the meetup, had it been the 29th or 30th I could have slipped over to Leeds as I have 2 nights booked in Premier Inn at Preston & Lancaster to break up journey, but leave for Inverness on the Saturday the 1st....sorry, maybe next time. :smiley:
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Please watch this space Brian. Theres meets springing up all over the place, have you seen the werkend one in oxford planned for next May. ?
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Hi, please can you put me in as a provisional booking? I really know the benefits of going to a meet cos of the day I spent on the Bristol one. So glad I went.
It's just the usual up and down stuff that so unpredictable, as you know yourselves. Anyway Norma, I still have your mobile number from the Bristol meet, unless you've changed it? Im currently having problems accessing my Facebook account (the server isn't loading it, I'm sure it's my poor IT skills :rolleyes:) so any pm would go unread. BUT if needed, I'll pm you if /when I fix it.
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No Rosaleen i havent changed my number,so text or phone me so i can let you know where we are if you can make it, it would be great if you could, would love to see you again xxx
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Thanks a lot Norma, I appreciate it.
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Am really torn about going. It is my first anniversary since losing my Mum so not sure what state I will be in. I mentioned it to my sister who asked me not to leave her alone that day. I really don't know what to do.
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Yes please put me down,train can get me there now I have the camper back to do the first part of the journey in.Sorry I can't help with local info I don't really know Leeds at all outside the railway station.
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Yeah Karena brilliant cant wait to see you. Xxx
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Joann hun dont worry hun your family have to come first we do understand hun and there will be other tines xxxx
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Just a thought JoAnn but would your sister consider coming along.
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Great idea Karena, but I asked her to come to Sheffield when we met but she did not want to.
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Hi, I need to let you know I won't make the Leeds meet. It will be one year on 1st November that George died and the build up to it is affecting me in all the ways I've read about on here and heard from others in the support group I go to.
So my head is all over the place at times and not in the right place for meeting up.
I would like to come to the Oxford meet next May though.
( I have planned out the day for 1 November as I've seen others recommend and do on this site and in the group, so that's helping)
Hope it's a good day for those who go to Leeds.
Rosaleen
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No worries Rosaleen. Like you say there is Oxford to look forward to :hearts: do what you feel is right for you and if at any point you'd like to do one and need to seek some support I'm sure people here are happy to help with tips etc xxx
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Thanks Emz
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Joann came to Sheffield Dave ,
Don't worry if you can't persuade her,Joann anniversary's can be very tricky.Maybe we can just meet up for coffee at a better time. :hug:
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I won't be able to come to Leeds. Can't really leave Angel for long at the moment and she has to be carried most of the time as she's not had all her injections yet and little legs not used to walking yet. Hope you all have a great time. Penny x
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Joann came to Sheffield Dave ,
Don't worry if you can't persuade her,Joann anniversary's can be very tricky.Maybe we can just meet up for coffee at a better time. :hug:
Opps thanks Karena...... :embarrassed: Iv'e removed that post then with apologies to all. :coffeetoast:
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Norma....I am supposed to be leaving Lancaster for Inverness on Saturday the 1st Oct as stated in earlier post, have you any idea of the number of people that will be at the meet in Leeds ?. I shall certainly try and come along to the Oxford meet next year. However, I would like to come to the Leeds meetup, so if I did decide to come, I'm thinking along the lines of booking an extra night in a premier Inn for the Saturday night and continue up to Inverness on the Sunday.
Losing one day of my weeks holiday in Scotland is no big deal, it's just one day lost and a extra night in Premier Inn, a small price to pay for the pleasure of meeting some of you, my daughter keeps telling me to get out there and socialise more... so this is me trying to do just that... :smiley:
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Hi Brian thats great news you are more than welcome i promise you won't regret it, there is about 11 of us meeting and you wont be the only man We will meet at The White Rose Cafe/Bar in the station near the entrance, where we will wait until 10.45. We then plan to go to Hotel Chocolate (opposite Yates's on the corner of Boar Lane/Albion St) and will remain there until 12 noon. I will private message you my mobile number so you can ring me for where we are if youre later than the times above looking forward to meeting you xx
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Thank you Norma, I'll leave Lancaster fairly early so should be there in plenty of time, just need to do some online research to find parking, and print off a map of the city centre. Only visited Leeds once about 20yrs years ago but it was only a couple hours and don't remember much about it. Hopefully the satnav will get me within walking distance. I look forward to meeting you all. :smiley:
Just about to book an extra night in Premier Inn somewhere for Saturday night.
Much appreciated Norma. :hug:
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I,m not sure how many Brian I think there's a few from the fb group but you will be more than welcome. :hug:
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Grr my flipping technology strike my last comment from history except the bit about being welcome of course.might be an idea to see if there is a car park at the premier in you can use then bus or walk in.It may have changed of course but I remember parking as being a bit of a nightmare.
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Thanks Eileen and Karena, a little nervous meeting strangers for first time, but we do share one thing in common. We didn't want or choose it, but sometimes life can seem so cruel. It's taken decades for some us to build our lives and when it seems you have everything and cannot be happier, in an instant it's suddenly all gone, and your life is empty.
You all take care, and I will see you Saturday morning, have a safe journey. :hug:
Best wishes....Brian
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I would have loved to come but My father is Terminally Ill I cant leave him I will get to meet some of you some day Im sure, I hope you All have a Lovely Time.
:hearts: :hug: :hearts:........Mikexx ( the kisses are for The Ladies ) lol
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Please please please! take some photos to share here and on the FB group after your meet or during if poss. I want members to see how great these meet ups are and loose their shyness and nerves not to come on the next one's.
PS any pictures of Norma and Karena after the pub, just send them to me for straightening up. :rofl:
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Brian71, there is a couple of car parks on Wellington Street which is 2 mins walk from the train station.
I would have loved to have come but it is my first anniversary and I will be with my sisters. It is just not the right times for me but I am sure you will all have a good time.
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Mike :hug: :hug:
Dave I have no idea what you're talking about,I shhdont dwinmk ish awl roomah and schlanda.
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Very well said Karena i understood every word you said, after all i speak the same language xxx
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I just know you two can depend on one another for support Karena and Norma. :whistle:
Especially if they prop you up back to back for the photoshoot.... :coffee toast:
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Hope you all have a great time, sorry I can't come to this one, the joys of having a new puppy lol. x
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Am I the first to check in. :coffeetoast:
Just wanted to say thanks all for a lovely day.Was nice to meet new people, and always a pleasure to counterprop with Norma.
Sorry I had to rush off,literally jumped on the train as the doors were closing. :hug: for everyone.
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Yes you are the first Karena, its been a brilliant day, only just got our train lol, These meet up really do uplift our spirits, and i dont mean the spirits in a glass lol, what would imdo without the latest vely Karena to COUNTERPROP me, thats a new word for me i will use it again lol xxx
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It was very nice to meet you all today, and it was also good to talk to really lovely caring people rather than to myself.
Shame it rained heavy late in the afternoon, but eventually managed to get a taxi back to the car park, though it was 7.30 when I reached Premier Inn due to heavy traffic. Nonetheless, it was a most enjoyable day, so a big thank you to you all for making it so pleasant.
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I'll second that Brian. A very enjoyable day with some lovely people.
Thanks for making me feel normal again.
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Sounds like a lovely day with lots of support. Did anyone look or sound the way you imagined they would???
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I must admit that nobody looked or sounded like I thought they would.
Then again I have a weird imagination. :whistle:
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Oh dear Hubby you must tell lol xx
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If I told I would be barred. :wink:
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Yes perhaps better not then lol xx
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I was thinking in the morning how it made me look at people.I was stood at the front of the station wondering if anyone walking past was someone I was about to meet.Normally people pass and i dont notice there except the cheeky guy on crutches who cant use them and doesnt need them and who doesnt ask for change but a fiver. Eventually I decide the lady outside the white rose cafe had been there a while and gathered some more people ,but mainly if I was wrong they all were smiley enough to not worry.
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You need something identifying thing to carry or wear?
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Youre right thete Julie and funnily enough yesterday a buk printed umbrella was discussed so one of us could hold it up in the air so we didnt lose anybody lol xxx
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:rofl: I,all design it you can carry it.
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Well I have a reputation of being a Victor Meldrew....lol...the grandchildren nicknamed me grumpy granddad...so I hope I didnt come across as being too miserable...because Im really a big softie really. Though I didnt really want the honour of being the oldest there...lol
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You didn't come off as grumpy at all Brian. It was really nice meeting you. :cheesy:
How was the drive to Inverness?
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Hubby...as I was in the Leeds area I decided to take the A1 north but its much longer and slower so I arrived at the caravan at 7pm....though I did have 3 decent breaks on way up. It made a change to use a different route though.
Weather was brilliant all the way...so other than lots of roadworks the drive was good. Quite tired so I should sleep tonight. My daughter is coming up Friday and returning to Cornwall Monday evening. She has a key so can make herself at home until I return next Saturday so I may drive back the 515 miles through the night which is what I did last time...in June...roads are nice n quiet so should be back Saturday AM.
She's coming up for that hospital meeting on the Monday.
They are supposed to be posting me a copy of their 5mth investigation report to me this week hopefully before the meeting so I can study it and any questions I have can also be raised at the meeting.
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515 miles drive in the night!!!
Didn't Roy Orbison write a song about that?
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I drove all night -not sure he was so precise about the distance, but slightly creepy "drove all night to get to you
Is that all right?I drove all night, crept in your room" -you'd think he might have asked first :rofl:
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:rofl: karena :-D xx
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:rofl: Karena.
And there was me thinking it was a love song.
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Orbison did indeed do a song about driving through the night. I don't mind night driving, empty roads, less hold-ups, though it's something I don't do too often, it depends.
I got back home about 4am Saturday morning, my daughter Jo had arrived from Cornwall Saturday morning. I grabbed about 3hrs sleep and strangely she was more tired than I, we went to the cinema in the evening and she was falling asleep...lol, whereas I felt as fresh as a daisy.
Scotland holiday wasn't too bad, a little lonely, but it was brightened up a little when I gave a lift to two ladies from Finland who were making their way down the A82 to Fort William and were walking to a bus stop, the buses are every 2hrs. They were staying at the Premier Inn in Fort William for 6days, and I was most pleased when they accepted my offer to treat them to a evening meal, so we arranged to meet up 4hrs later in the restaurant.
They were excellent company for a couple hours, they cheered me up no end and their English was likely better than mine.
The holiday was slightly marred however by a necessary trip to the Raigmore hospital A&E in Inverness on the Monday, as a hernia that's been giving me a little trouble for some time decided to pop out causing excruciating pain, but the doc fixed it temporarily. So now I'm awaiting an appointment to arrive so I can get it sorted at our own hospital, the sooner the better as it's been giving quite a bit of discomfort today which I could have done without as my daughter and I, had that meeting with the hospital management and consultants today...IOW the conclusion of their 5 months investigation into Ann's death.
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Brian get that Hernia Done I had mine done a little less than a month ago Best thing Ive done in a long time they couldnt do it Keyhole but the cut is a little bit over 5 inches no pain after surgery let home the next day they only kept me in because I have Sleep Apnea and the Anthethetist wanted me to stay, now Im completely pain free no more pains or twinges that make your eyes water anymore, good luck take care
Best wishes .......Mike :hug:
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Thanks Mike...yes I will do, I've had it for many years, it was discovered by a cardiologist 9yrs years ago after a heart attack during a examination, saying did you know you have a small hernia in your groin?, I actually didn't realise I had a hernia at the time, and it's given no real problems until the last 12 months or so. Gradually getting worse, increasing noticeably in size too, hopefully it will get sorted over the next few weeks, I may even end up with a flatter lower tummy with a bit of luck...lol
My late wife Ann used to suffer from Sleep Apnea too, she used to use what they call a C-Pap machine at night, which the hospital supplied her with, thankfully it also reduced her snoring too...lol
However... what I'd give to hear that snoring again.
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I've mainly worked nights for years Brian and it was s bit of a shock to me how busy the roads are of a day. Journeys take at least twice as long and during the school run I sometimes feel like giving up.
I've had a hernia for years but mine is an epigastric one. The only symptom so far is it looks like an alien is trying to get out of my stomach if I do anything resembling a sit up. Luckily I don't do sit ups because operations terrify me. Lol
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Hubby I think it was carrying a couple suitcases up 2 flights of stairs that triggered mine off, but it's something I've been putting off for years so it looks like it's time to get it sorted.
I tend to keep away from doctors and hospitals as much as possible, when I spoke to my doctor today when he rang me, he said it was over twelve months ago since I last saw him regarding slow water works (enlarged prostrate) and I mentioned the hernia to him then but apparently I told him not to bother with it at that time, however I don't think I have a choice now. AIS the plus side besides no pain is I might end up with a flatter lower tummy...lol...fingers xxx.
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Well that has to be the first time I have heard of a hernia operation being of cosmetic value. :rofl:
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Well that has to be the first time I have heard of a hernia operation being of cosmetic value. :rofl:
As my wife used to often say.... PMA...(positive mental attitude) you have to see the possible pluses in every situation Karena...lol
And while on a positive note. I joined a group of people this evening called friends of Worcester, a group of over 40's up to 80+yrs who meetup every week for social outings, meals, coach trips in UK and abroad, including 10 pin bowling etc plus xmas do's and many other events. They have approx 105 members in total, though obviously it's rare so many turn up.
Tonights meet was their weekly pub meetup, where they meet in a different pub each week from 8.30pm till throwing out time. Probably about 30 or so there tonight, but really friendly people, and probably the best evening I've had since Ann passed away 6 months ago, I'm looking forwards to their 10 pin Bowling session on Friday, should be interesting...lol.. it's £24 for 6 months membership, but many events are subsidised out of the fees as its a non-profit making group run by the members themselves. They have several coach trips to places in the UK and also holidays outside the UK, about 45 went to Malta recently.
So hopefully it will be just what the doctor ordered....certainly can't do me any harm.
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Oh Brian, what an inspiring post - sounds like a terrific group to be part of and just what the doctor ordered indeed! So good to hear the enthusiasm in your writing and I look forward to hearing more about your outings. How did you hear about it - is it specifically aimed at bereaved people? Anyway, have fun and I hope it brings you many happy times
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Glad you enjoyed the group Brian, think its a great idea, good luck x
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Thanks Angela and Norma.
Unfortunately, no it's not purely for bereaved people, though I met several who had lost their husband or wife in recent years, and like myself were seeking to broaden their social life and make friendships, some have been members of the group for 5 or 6yrs.
I actually didn't get home until 1am, as many didn't leave the pub until quite late. I would say the majority last night were all over 50yrs, probably half in 60's, and 2 or 3 maybe my age.
I didn't get to speak to everyone other than introductions, and it will take ages to remember the names, but yes it was good and I'm glad I went along. There's not many weeks where they don't have something happening 2 or 3 times during the week. They certainly all seem to enjoy it anyway.
Best wishes.....Brian :hug:
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That sounds just what the doctor ordered Brian. :coffeetoast:
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HOORAY BRIAN! Lovely to read about your exciting new adventure. Sounds like just the thing for you. Well done for jumping in and taking the chance. Lovely to have fun things to look forward to each week though I do understand that sometimes it fills the lonely space and other times it makes the absence more acute.. But you are creating new memories and moving forward which is good to do when you're ready. Have fun and be kind to yourself
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Sounds like just what the doctor ordered Brian and I'm sure you'll be a very popular member. I might look around to see if there is a similar group in my area
Losing a partner leaves a massive empty space especially if, like us, we have been practically joined at the hip to our other half for most of our relationship. I'm busy looking for things to fill the time. Tonight I'm off to watch a mate do a gig in a wine bar. I can't have a drink though because I'm working tomorrow. :undecided:
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Well done Brian .nothing like that here for me unfortunately,one of the reasons I,m thinking of leaving yes its handy for work and moving will mean having to get a car,but work isn't everything it doesn't provide an end to loneliness.the place I,m thinking of is nearer to my youngest daughter and although a group like that isn't for me,There is a volunteer gardening project a college a swimming pool for starters.It also occurred to me last year when I hurt my eye and couldn't see to drive to A and E its not just socialising that makes staying here difficult..
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Thank you for your posts, I wish you all lived closer to me, so we could get out and enjoy the occasional meal out together, though I don't mind travelling so who knows. Future meetups....perhaps.
I'm still getting bad days, no doubt about that, but we have to try and make new friends, of that I am sure, I just need to practice what I preach...lol. There was a Friday morning 10 pin bowling session this morning but I didn't feel like going. However I will go along to their weekly pub meetup on Tuesday evenings, and hopefully get to know them a little better, as I suspect it will take a few visits just to meet them all and remember their names.
One of the problems of course is that it's a general socialising group, so many are simply single or divorced, though there are some who are bereaved I have just not met many of them yet.
I'm going along to a bereavement group tomorrow who meet once a month at a large garden centre cafe in Hereford. I have been twice previously but missed the last one, so I'm looking forwards to that.
It's organised by St. Michaels Hospice in Hereford, and meet every 3rd Saturday from 11am till 12.30 at the Ryevale Garden Centre, in case anyone in Herefordshire ever joins the forum and read this.
Karena, I hope whatever you decide goes well, you have to do what you feel is right for you.
I know if I had passed away first, my wife Ann would have likely sold everything and moved in with our daughter Jo down in Liskeard, Cornwall or bought a place close to her, unfortunately my wife Ann did not drive. My wife and daughter were very close indeed, and Jo has been there for me 100% since Ann passed away, which is more than I can say for my 2 sons. She used to speak to her Mum on the phone every day, and she still does that with me. She and the 2 girls are coming up next weekend to stay with me during the school break for a few days..
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Your getting out and about a lot more than me Brian. I try but I just don't seem have time. Even when I do isometimes put things off because I don't fel like doing them like you did with the bowling. I guess things still depend on whether our emotions are playing up or not and its going to be like that for some time.
Having your daughter and the 2 girls around should keep you busy. Perhaps even enough to keep away those bad days while they are around.
Take care.
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Yes...Jo and the girls come up on Saturday morning Hubby so that will keep me occupied for a few days, we tend to go out in my car leaving hers on the driveway, to different places each day. She's mentioned going to the Black Country Museum and Stratford upon Avon, and Gloucester Docks this time. There's a lot of beautiful places of interest in Herefordshire and Gloucestershire, and she doesn't know this part of the country well herself, so Jo finds it enjoyable too, hopefully it will tire the girls out a little so they settle down in the evening a bit, as they can be rather exhausting and trying at times...lol
One needs a lot of patience with them, and I seem to have lost some of mine as I've got older.. :wink:
I registered on that Dating site Plenty of Fish yesterday, but deleted my account 24hrs later, I did pass my phone number to a nice lady who has lost her husband to cancer, she's 70, and doesn't drive, she's really very nice and seems genuine and sincere. I've never used one of those sites in my life before. I deleted my account because the whole website is wide open, basically in the public domain, and has a consequence, everything that gets posted on there ends up being harvested continually by search engines, and because people tend to post a lot of personal information on there, they get targeted heavily by the many scavenger search engines out there, and as a result anything you post, including any personal pictures etc. it all gets recorded and basically remains online forever. It's a bit like this one a little where you don't even need to register to browse the site, but obviously there's much more personal information shared in people's profiles on dating sites....so not really for me...lol I like to talk to people, not share my whole life online (at least not in the public domain)....saying that, is that not what I'm doing on here...lol....yes...but to a much lesser extent...lol
It would be nice however, to develop a friendship with a lady in a similar position, and I emphasis the friendship as I'm not looking for a relationship, well certainly not at the moment or likely ever. I have a lot of meals out and like day trips out to different places, all over the UK, and holidays of course of which I have lots. I suppose it's the companionship I'm seeking, and she would enjoy it too I'm sure, as that's what I am really missing since Ann passed away.
That lady I mentioned lives in the adjacent county of Gloucestershire so not too far away, her sister passed away at the weekend so not a good time for her at the moment, but I hope she does make that phone call.... I don't feel it's a betrayal to my dear Ann, and AIS I'm only looking for Companionship, not a relationship. The loneliness is probably the worst part of bereavement, the grieving never ever leaves you I don't think, it just becomes manageable as time passes.
In the mean time Hubby, as it's Tuesday, I shall head over to a pub, just outside Worcester for that Friends Group meeting tonight at 8.30, grabbing a Carvery at my favourite pub on the way about 6pm, only my 2nd meet-up so no doubt I shall be struggling again to recall all of their names and have to ask many of them again I'm sure. Anyway it gets me out of the bungalow for a few hours, and as I'm driving it's going to be Diet Coke all night again..lol
You take care my friend.
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Brian maybe a dating site is the wrong place there may be specifically friendship sites out there or forums with people of a common interest,you mentioned cars for example,some of these forums do have meet ups.
my campervan one for example we were on together and made friends through meets.,There are three of us now widowed who do things separate sometimes that we fancy trying or go off and walk together.two women one man.and a couple others who are be couples or young er singles who also introduce new ideas to try out.This weekend for example I am going to a steampunk fair with two friends originally from that forum.
Personally even if I was looking for a date in the dating sense which I,m not,( and as you say neither are you,)I wouldn't go near a dating site, they're predator heaven and grief with the accompanying loneliness can cloud better judgement.
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I think I'm inclined to agree karena, though from what I've heard it's the ladies that seem to get bombarded with loads of silly sexual abuse comments from stupid guys mostly, though maybe there are female predators too...lol.... there probably is.
I've been to a Friends of Worcester social meeting this evening and it was most enjoyable, I also bought a ticket tonight for a meeting tomorrow night with includes a 3 course meal, at a restaurant/pub a few miles away, I'm told there will be around 20 members there. I must admit they are a very nice friendly bunch of people, though I probably need to dress more casually, as I am very much a suit and tie person especially now it's getting cooler. Casual to me is a blazer still with a tie...lol.
As for jeans I have never worn a pair in my life, hard to believe but true...they were the cheapest clothes you could buy when I was a kid....how times have change, now you even pay extra for the big holes in the knee's....lol... unbelievable. :whistle:
Talking of cars Karena... my new car hopefully will be arriving sometime next month, as I notice on the VW site they have started building it...probably finished now as that was a few days ago. Have had a few BMW's in past, but bought a VW Tiguan 4wd DSG auto last time, we used to get snowed in badly here, but you guessed it, I've not seen a snowflake since buying it, lost 14.5k on it in almost 3yrs, (3yrs old end of November)...I know I'm stupid before you say, but always been a sucker for new cars...lol
I've gone for a VW Golf R-line with all the toys this time in Pure White (1st white car), it's actually a very fast car, petrol with twin turbo's, so something a little sportier..lol .it's also about 18mm lower than the standard Golfs. Hope my back doesn't play up getting in...lol. I would have gone for another BMW 330i again, but their totally sh*te in snow, this Tiguan is my first VW, and I must admit it's been 100% trouble free from new, and built pretty well too.
One things for sure, you can guarantee now the 4x4 is going we will have the worst ever snow this year. :cry:
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So glad youre enjoying the group youve joibed, it sounds amazing, anything that gets us out is a goid thing, meeting new people svthe best therapy yet, hope it girs well for you x
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Thank you Norma, well this is me trying, in effect a little therapy, and I did have a good time last night, albeit temporary until I returned back to a empty home again of course.
I did quite a bit of laughing last night, and it's great meeting different people, being a newish member, (2nd visit) I had people coming over to introduce themselves and have a chat, though it's going to take a little time to actually get to know all of them if indeed I ever will as there's a total of 105 altogether, though it's usually around 30ish that attend those evening weekly pub meetups. Also as well, when the group around my table began to disperse or go home, people on other tables would shout 'Brian come over and join us' which is really nice. They are genuinely friendly people. They are planning a trip to Tunisia for sometime in the new year, with other weekends away too, so may go on those. I notice on the monthly program a group are off to Butlins for a weekend on 11th November for the Weston Super Mare Gala...whatever that is...lol..ie. Friday returning Sunday evening by coach.
I can be a little cheeky and forwards sometimes, for my age anyway, and I do have a wicked sense of humour sometimes but that's no bad thing. It's ironic Norma because as a child and through my school years I suffered from the most severe stammer you can imagine. I would even avoid going on buses because when paying the conductor I could never get it out, (ask the fare..that it....what else did you think I meant...lol) it really was very bad. I can empathise with people who stutter when speaking as having a bad stammer can be socially terrible, thankfully I managed to grow out of mine with time, but unfortunately some people never do, but I've never forgotten what it was like back then.
However, the Army helped build my confidence, and of course working in pubs for years repairing Fruit machines and juke boxes etc that also helped a lot, as you have to learn to give as good as you get as the saying goes. Also later meeting and dealing with business people also helped. So I've gone from being very shy and extremely nervous to someone quite confident, and of course that stammer disappeared years ago thankfully......now you can't shut me up... :rofl:
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Ooops just read my last message it was a bit haphazard lol, so glad you understood it, after talking to you a couple of times and meeting you in Leeds i refuse to coment on your last six words x
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lol however I was fully expecting that comment Norma :wink:
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Poor Norma- I think she's been on the bottle a bit early today! :yahoo:
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Its times like this confidence and the ability to talk easily to others is a useful talent Brian.
Norma doesn't drink Julie. :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
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Hmmmmm- she does now!
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I really need to change peoples opinions of me, i havent got a clue where me drinking came from in the first place hic hic
Just because im nearly old doesnt mean you can all pick on me :cray:
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:hug:you know we love you
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Hey im only nearly old, not there yet lol xxx
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