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Bereavement Support Posts => Introduce Yourself To Us All => Topic started by: Sab31 on June 11, 2016, 01:05:41 AM

Title: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 11, 2016, 01:05:41 AM

Hi I have  plots my fiancee suddenly to acute illness  two weeks ago. I'm finding it so Hard to get up and through each day.  I have four children 15,12 and twins who are X 8 and they are keeping me going but it's so hard consoling their grief  whilts controlling my own emotion  and pain. I'm Hoping their are others who I can talk to for advice and support.
Thank you

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Norma on June 11, 2016, 07:22:01 AM

Sending you a welcome hug.  Xxx

 :hug:

Your loss is still so raw hun, especially with trying to care for your children plus dealing with their loss and the massive gap that has appeared in all your lives. I could tell you it does get easier to cope with the grief, but at  this early stage of your journey im sure you cant see how. So ill just say to you take care of you as well, make a little time for yourself to grieve and just take things slowly. Xxx

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 11, 2016, 09:52:12 AM

Thank you for responding to me, I am struggling to look after myself, even the simply every day things I struggle, your right I must remember to take care of myself, something I'm just not thinking about and make time for myself to grieve.
Thanks you

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Norma on June 11, 2016, 10:28:52 AM

I promise you hun there will always be someone here to listen and respond to your posts, do you have any  other family support around you ?? Xxx

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Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 11, 2016, 10:42:48 AM

Thank you x
I have my sister staying will me and the children and lots of very supportive friends all helping me through.

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Norma on June 11, 2016, 11:08:51 AM

Thats good hun, make the most of them so you get some time to yourself. You will need all your strength to get you through the early days  Xxx


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Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Soleil on June 11, 2016, 04:30:41 PM

Hi Sab,

I am so sorry for your loss. And like Norma said, someone is here and will respond to your posts. We have all been through this and there is great support and encouragement here. 
 :hug:

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 11, 2016, 05:01:40 PM

Thank you it's comforting to know  there are people I can talk to who understand what I'm going through

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Emz2014 on June 11, 2016, 08:26:24 PM

Sending a warm welcome hug  :hug: xx

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Hubby on June 11, 2016, 11:39:59 PM

Hi sab31. Welcome to the forum.  :hug:

I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss.

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 12, 2016, 12:39:58 AM

Thank you all for welcoming me, I a
 Not sleeping well at all, have been going over old videos tonight of us and children, feeling quiet serial and emotionless which is making me feel bad as can't seem to shed a tear now even though I am hurting so badly inside and missing him terrible, trying to be strong I think for the children but feel numb, is this normal to feel like this  :cry:

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Hubby on June 12, 2016, 07:05:23 AM

Everybody grieves differently so there is no normal way to grieve. Whatever you are going through will be normal for you even if you think you are losing your mind. Generally the first few weeks following our loss we are a bit in shock as our brains attempt to make sense of the situation. the numbness can help us to cope with all the arrangements that have to be made.

Grief is a long journey and you are only at the start of it. There will  be many tears and emotions but it will ease over time. Concentrate onlooking after yourself and take one day at a time.

 :hug:

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: rajahh on June 12, 2016, 08:16:34 AM

Hubby has put it so well. You may need to read his words every day to remind you that it is ok to be reacting the way you are.

There absolutely isno right or wrong.

It is a long journey, the words you have under your name say it well. It s the missing him/her that you never get over.

This is because of the deep love you still feel.

Jeannette

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Sab31 on June 12, 2016, 08:35:58 AM

Thank you both for your words xx

Title: Re: Introducing myself
Post by: Joann on June 12, 2016, 03:39:33 PM

So sorry for your loss sab31. Sending welcome  :hug: