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Title: 6 months in
Post by: Rosaleen on May 04, 2016, 07:28:09 AM

Lost George to cancer 1 st November last year and so May 1st was exactly  6 months,  it was even on the same day, a Sunday. I've read again and  again how at this time things can become harder
. I now know it's true. Hoping things will ease a bit

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: pennyking on May 04, 2016, 08:53:25 AM

 :hug:

Sending hugs xxx

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Hubby on May 04, 2016, 10:33:09 AM

Hoping with you  :hug:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Karena on May 04, 2016, 11:39:04 AM

 :hug: :hug: :hug:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: longedge on May 04, 2016, 04:31:56 PM

"Hoping things will ease a bit"

I'm with you 100% there Rosaleen both for you and for me as I am just a few days past the 6 month mark. If you're anything like me, it's really 'coming home' now that we won't see one another again and it hurts so much  :cray:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Norma on May 04, 2016, 06:18:00 PM

Hi to you rosaleen, hubby and longedge, ive gone past my first anniversary, so all i can say to you as with everyfirst the thinking about it tends to be worse than actually living throught it, and the actuall day is far worse than the date. But please try and remember, nothing and i mean nothing can ge worse than the actually day you all lost your loved  one, and you  got through that, yes youll remember and relive every minute of the day, but can never be as the day we lost them. Xxx


 :hug: :hug:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Spaicer on May 04, 2016, 10:52:12 PM

4 months in for me, I'm finding it harder as time goes on, it's longer & longer that I haven't spoken to him, held his hand, buried my face in his neck and smelt him (even if he didn't know I was there)
we get through each day because we have no choice, it must get easier as people say it will, can't imagine it though.
 I hope things get easier for you soon  :hearts:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Emz2014 on May 05, 2016, 08:43:29 AM

Sending a big hug. It's such a rollercoaster journey, time will make it easier to cope.  :hug: Xx

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Rosaleen on May 05, 2016, 03:14:45 PM

Thanks to all of you for what you've said.  I really do appreciate it.
Yes Longedge, it does hurt more now. And Spaicer  yes it's harder now too.   Neither of which I'd expected. So I was totally  pole axed by it.
Norma, I understand what you're saying,  this 'milestone'  catapulted me back 6 months to George's last few days and hours. That obviously  was painful,  not just  because I'd thought I'd somehow managed to get through  that initial awful  rawness  but because  these past few weeks I'd found some of  the happy memories were starting to filter through, past the grief, making me smile  and that had  felt SO good. 
Now these memories have  been  swamped again. :cray:
I feel is though I've taken one step forward and three steps back. But I suppose all I can do is take another step forward.

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Hubby on May 05, 2016, 03:47:54 PM

I'm nowhere near the six month mark but I have noticed that things seem to move in peaks and troughs. As soon as I think things are getting a little easier something in my head clicks and I'm right back where I started. The phrase 'roller coaster of emotions' is so very apt.

I guess we have to seize the good memories and ride out the bad times.

Hoping your on your way to leaving this latest dip behind  :hug:

Title: Re: 6 months in
Post by: Rosaleen on May 05, 2016, 04:59:14 PM

Thanks, I hope so too.