Hiya Confetti

I joined this forum 18 months ago as i was going through a rough time. I was experiencing delayed grieving after losing my dad and sisters from cancer between the ages of 10 and 24. Im 42 now. Then in june last year lost my mother, again to cancer.

I know right!

This forum has helped me very much. Just by posting random thoughts and feelings will help you get things off your mind. Not forgotten, but a release. You can express yourself and you wont be judged. Even if you get no replies, be assured there are people reading who understand that are going through the same pain.

Although you and your younger brothers are traumatised by losing your parents, you will all be grieving differently because you all have different memories and experiences so just be conscious of that.

For me, even trying to open up to my brother was difficult although we have lost the same. So i found myself a counsellor and she has helped me more than i could ever imagine.

So you have come to the right place for grief support. We are all very friendly here

Stay Strong. Please keep posting.

Pep

Hi there

It's really nice (sorry it's under the circumstances) to see a new post.

I'm in the same position and have lost both my parents too. My Dad was 52 and my Mum was 69. I lost them in 1999 and  2019 respectively.  I feel alone in the world and have little to no support. I know exactly how you feel and what you are going through.

The only advice that I can give is that you take it step by step.  To have lost both in such a short period of time will have taken such a toll on your system that you cannot and should not be expected to feel normal. You do what you can at your own pace and no one else's. If you're too exhausted to do anything you don't have to and I will give you the advice I was given at the time - you must must must be kind to yourself. If that means sitting on the couch eating chocolate do it, if it means walking in the sun with your dog, do it - do whatever feels right for you.

I'd really love to know where everyone on the forum went, but I'm here. If you'd like to message me about any of your feelings please do, I'm here for you. I can promise you that every emotion you are feeling now is normal for you. Please just keep talking and know you aren't alone.

Much love to you

Sarah

Hello Mani and welcome.

Sadly through a major issue the forum was shut down for weeks until we sussed what was causing it, but sadly all our members left here thinking it was permanent.

I'm so sorry about your Dad, I do hope the end was not in terrible pain for him the poor man.

Anxiety and mind troubling thoughts that need answers are quite normal, and best talked about and never bottled up inside or you will not help the healing process to give you back some normality and peace back in your day.

If you get no other support here then please join my Facebook support page where you most certainly will get all the answers you need.

Take care Mani.

Dave forum owner.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1566851883557388/

I just wanted to introduce myself,  my dad passed away extremely quickly from kidney cancer at the end of October,  I  am 46 years old and feel I need to talk as I have alot of anxiety and unanswered questions. I hope everyone is doing as well as can be x

Hi

I'm not a 100% sure about this, but here goes. I lost my partner in November, she had suffered Pulmonary Fibrosis and Emphysema for some years but 2021 was when she became very ill. She was so brave and strong and i really don't know how i will survive without her. I have lost two brothers and my mother to respiratory illness and it feels like this thing has finally got me beat. I loved my partner so much and feel like my life is over. Sorry, i am male in my late 50's.