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Introduce Yourself To Us All / I miss him.
« Last post by JC on February 21, 2022, 11:49:12 PM »
Hi, It's almost 20 months since my husband died. It was a sudden death..cardiac arrest. I'm not doing ok. I haven't opened up much & l know I need to.
Hello, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I don't think there is anything more difficult than the loss of your mum. No one can replace a mum. The circumstances you describe will only have made this harder and more painful and you are bound to be feeling guilty, but honestly, no matter what the circumstances, I can assure you, we can all find something to feel guilty about when we lose someone. The truth is you can't see into the future and can not know what will happen. We all go through a series of 'what ifs' and 'if onlys'. Life however just isn't like that, so please try not to blame yourself. Nothing ever goes as we might have wanted unfortunately.

I am not surprised to hear that you are both crying and finding things to laugh at. Your loss is so recent, you will still be in shock and will still be trying to take in what has happened. It is normal to be so emotionally confused in these circumstances. It is a long and difficult road to travel to find your way through grief and there is no right nor wrong way to do it. It is different for each of us.

It is not unusual to feel you are not coping at all either. No one could expect you to so soon after such a devastating blow. All you can do it take things one day or one hour or even one moment at a time. Try to be kind to yourself and try not to be self-critical. You have had a terrible shock and it will take time to adjust to that and find a way to live with it. I think really, it is something we spend the rest of our lives learning to adapt to. There will be good and bad days as you do, but eventually the better days will start to outnumber the bad ones.

Sending you a hug  :hug:
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Re: Missing my husband
« Last post by Tracy R on February 20, 2022, 08:41:18 PM »
I think Iím ok. I take each day at a time. Each day brings a whole range of emotions. And yes sometimes I laugh and fill my time with nice things to fill a void. Three family dynamics (his) that donít meet my expectations. Thatís my issue.
Money is an issue. But itís only money! I have amazing family and friends and I am so grateful.
Thank you fir replying. How are you?
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Re: Missing my husband
« Last post by Dave Administrator on February 20, 2022, 08:11:02 PM »
What a terrible start to 2022 I'm so sorry for your loss Tracy.

Please tell the group a little about all the thoughts and worries troubling your mind you may be bottling up to put on a brave face for others.

Trust me it really helps to get all these thing off of your chest to help to heal your broken heart.

Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Just lost my mum and broken
« Last post by J on February 20, 2022, 03:44:57 PM »
I lost my mum on Friday.
She was very unwell with advanced kidney disease and other issues and struggling a long time.

I donít live nearby. I tried to phone her in Thursday with no response and neighbours had to go in and found her on the bathroom floor delirious prob there for two days. She was crying in pain she. They tried to open the door but couldnít as she was leaning against it.

I went to see her in hospital and talked to her and held her hand but she tried to talk back and couldnít.

I feel so guilty I didnít go down to see her as I normally do on Monday. I am recovering from shingles. I feel terrible I didnít get her out of that house living on her own but she was so resistant to change.

I am not coping. I am an only child and have no family except my husband who is struggling himself. I just donít know how I am going to get through the next few moths, my dad died very suddenly on holiday when he was 60. 

I go from periods of sobbing uncontrollably as if my heart would break  to laughing at a Facebook post.

I started a new job in jan and after a month there was off with shingles and now this so an added pressure.

I am just so so sad and canít believe I will never see her or speak to her again.
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Missing my husband
« Last post by Tracy R on February 20, 2022, 08:08:52 AM »
My husband died of cancer on New Years Day. He was 62. The cancer over the last year had been cruel and relentless. We over came so many challenges. Then I had to let him go. I feel lost and lonely. I miss him and grieve for our future together.
Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room / Funeral on Monday
« Last post by Kes1968 on February 05, 2022, 03:43:19 PM »
Itís my Auntís funeral on Monday, I feel so sad 😞, Iíve not seen her in many years but we kept in touch by phone especially after my mum died back in 2018, she was the last link to my family.
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Re: Newbie
« Last post by Dave Administrator on February 02, 2022, 03:23:07 PM »
Hello Rosebud and welcome.

Loosing a baby or your child is always heartbreaking to here, and may I offer you my sincere sympathy for your loss.

Yes by all means share your poetry here, it will actually be a very good way of aiding with your healing process.
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Newbie
« Last post by Rosebud on February 01, 2022, 03:15:31 AM »

I just wanted to say hi to you all. I lost my baby boy a month after he was born in April last year. He arrived at 27 weeks survived a moth and died the day before my birthday. He was an identical twin, his name is Noah. I have 2 other children aswell as the surviving twin. Somedays are ok and some are very tough. I find some solace being creative and writing poetry. I'd like to share some with you 👋
Introduce Yourself To Us All / Re: My Dad
« Last post by SarahB on January 31, 2022, 06:39:02 PM »

Hi - I lost my Dad in the same way. I'm here for you. It's a big big shock. Please keep talking.
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