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Bereavement Support Posts => Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room => Topic started by: Kes1968 on December 01, 2018, 07:10:38 AM
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Feeling depressed, combination of things really, bumpy start with Max,bless him he’s a dear little soul and I’m sure things will work out, it has made me question whether I was really ready for such a massive commitment and whether I had rushed into things, I’ll have to see how things go, he’s a dear little character, tummy upset, both of us and sleeping downstairs, worrying about him not liking being picked up, lack of human social contact for me and he’s obviously missing his mother and siblings. I’m making the best of it and I’m sure way down the line I’ll wonder what I ever worried about, he’ll be a super companion. It’s just me being selfish😭😭😭😭😭
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I don’t want to give him up, 😭😭😭
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Try your best to relax with him. Dogs are like little sponges, they absorb so much from us and pick up on emotions/feelings. If you're feeling stressed worrying about him, he's going to pick up that you're stressed/worried but he won't know how to respond to that, he'll be feeling a bit confused
I still find it now, if I'm stressed about going into work, even if I dont say or do anything particular my dog picks up on it and will have a restless night, getting me up to go to the toilet early hours of the morning. My old dog would also sense it, if I was upset she'd come and snuggle into me. They all have their different ways/responses, you are still learning about each other at the moment
Try not to focus on the picking him up, he's learning his independence (bit like a toddler), try and turn it into a fun inquisitive thing, explore being down at his level. Maybe get a comfy pillow or beanbag, closer to his level he will gain confidence in clambering on or around you. As he gets older I'm sure he will learn how comfy sofas are! I had an alsatian cross years ago, she was never one for lying on the sofa or on my bed, but she gave the best cuddles - she'd walk up to me, put her head in my lap and wrap a front paw/leg around my legs
Its easier said than done, but try to relax. Let things develop and be curious to watch all his personality quirks. You're doing all the right things, getting some training/advice, try to loosen the grip a little and relax into it. Watch his little personality grow and shine. You'll have a wonderful companion there :hearts: :hearts:
And we're always here for support and guidance xx
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And as soon as he has his jabs you can do puppy classes to meet others, and when out for walks you'll get to know others. Dogs are great conversation starters!
How about joining a dog group on facebook? I'm a member of one and everyone chats about their dogs, shares photos, and share tips. Will get you started chatting more and some groups organise walk meets :hug: xx
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I’m missing my mum too and yesterday I made the mistake of looking at photos of my old home, which made me wistful for my old life with mum and Harry, when I didn’t have a care in the world, well that’s not strictly true but I’m being silly and should be thankful for all that I do have , including little Max here
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I can totally understand that :hug: :hearts: you're on a bumpy bit of the rollercoaster. Be gentle with yourself, easier days will come again, for now though increase your TLC. You're still healing :hug: xx
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And as soon as he has his jabs you can do puppy classes to meet others, and when out for walks you'll get to know others. Dogs are great conversation starters!
How about joining a dog group on facebook? I'm a member of one and everyone chats about their dogs, shares photos, and share tips. Will get you started chatting more and some groups organise walk meets :hug: xx
Thanks emz for your kindness and not judging me or thinking I’m an awful person, I think I would miss the little monkey now if I had him rehomed 😭😭😭 it’s a learning process for both of us xxx
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The last thing I want is for Max to be unhappy 😭😭😢🐒🐒💕
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There's no way you're an awful person! Having a puppy is very much a learning curve - and we just have to do our best :smiley: dogs very much live in the moment. You're going to have a lovely best friend there and many fun adventures/explorations ahead :hug: xx
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:hug:thanks emz, we’re going to have an easy day today, I’m not going to do any active training with him, just snuggle and let him be/do what he wants xx
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He’s taken himself off into his soft crate and seems to be sleeping, he had a dicky tummy last night ( my fault, a lot of treats yesterday during training and a chew last night that was obviously too rich for him 😢). I’m sure he’s feeling a bit icky today and he’s not eaten yet 😢 I’ll keep an eye on him and consult the vet if he’s no better later/ tomorrow
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Thanks for that xx he’s been on wainwright’s large breed puppy dry food and Lily’s kitchen puppy wet food, I’m leaving off Lily’s kitchen as it might be too much for him yet. I phoned the vet this morning and they advised me to keep things bland food wise today, plain boiled rice or pasta or boiled chicken, I don’t have any chicken but I’ve boiled some macaroni pasta and left a little in his dish, I always make sure he has plenty of water, he’s touched nothing yet, not even the water 😢 so I’m thinking he’s still feeling icky. Hopefully he’ll perk up soon xx I steer clear of anything rawhide or pigs ears etc, anyway. I’ll buy a couple of nylabones I think from amazon for him to chew on. He had a lot of treats yesterday when I was training him so none of those for a day or two or at least until he’s back to normal xx I’ll phone the vet tomorrow if he’s not better. I caught him just in time last night trying to eat his poop 💩🤢🤢🤢 so obviously that hasn’t helped 😢😢🤢 poor little guy xxx🤢😢❤️🐒
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I talk to him all time too and gently stroking him xx he has tried to rip up the newspaper I had down as emergency puppy pads but I’ve got a fresh supply of puppy pads now xx
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Aye plain rice etc is fine for them, it could be the wet food might be a bit rich for him......Rory loves to shed newspaper he's a little git bit i have to laugh because i pretend to read the newspaper and ignore him and all of a sudden you see this little nose peeping under the paper.....he is very shifty......I often spot him peeping at me in the glass display cabinets in the lounge and he's sussed out reflections so he thinks he is invisible lol. He likes to watch Paul O'Grady TV shows about dogs too and sits watching for ages......the house feels dead without Ruth but wee Rory does brighten things here.
I wouldn’t be without Max really, I’m just anxious to do things right and keep him happy and healthy xx
Laughing at your talk of Rory and the newspaper 😂
I’ve found the puppy Kong toy I bought for him and have popped it ( un filled) in his bed in his crate where he’s sleeping at the moment. He’s had a drink of water xx. He’s not touched the pasta though, I guess he’ll eat it eventually if he’s really hungry, I do worry about him not eating but it won’t hurt if his tummy is off 😢🤢
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He’s eaten and drunk lots of water , he’s not had much food and I’ve deliberately kept it bland but he was really hungry tonight!! a couple of scrambled eggs and some cooked potato mashed with my fingers to make it manageable and a small handful of his dry puppy food but he didn’t really eat hardly any of that ( the dry puppy food) . We’ve also been outside this afternoon on the patio! He loved it, got out there by himself and back in by himself 😀❤️🐶 he’s seemingly much better xxx thanks everyone for your kindness and support today xxx
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:hug:I,m sure he will be fine kes -its all so new too him it is bound to take time - one thing for sure is its not lack of care on your part
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:hearts: he’s much better xx eating normally and v lively 🤣 my friends husband came and puppy sat for me today so I could nip to pets at home and get more puppy food and I got him some new toys 🤣
My other friend who lives down the road came and met him yesterday and she’s going to come and take us to the vet on Sunday for his next jabs. He’s sleeping better at night and going outside and back in on his own, obviously I go with him. He’s letting me handle him a lot more than he has been. He’s just adorable xx ❤️❤️❤️🐒🐒💕💕
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Brilliant news, he's doing really well settling in......don't forget to take photos of him..pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee can't wait to see him.
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Brilliant news, he's doing really well settling in......don't forget to take photos of him..pleaseeeeeeeeeeeee can't wait to see him.
Thanks yes he’s coming on in leaps and bounds, literally 😂😂🤣🐒🐒
I’ll keep trying to upload pictures
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Max , 9 weeks old
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More Max...
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Oh......he is Gorgeous! what a cutie and love those lugs! Rory wants to know how Max got his Elephant? 1st picture looks just his favourite toy a squeaky Elephant he takes it everywhere with him lol
Yep you have got yourself a cutie there. x
Thanks , he’s gorgeous isn’t he, the elephant is from Wilco xx I know the ears are growing 🤣 as is the rest of him 🤣🤣 we’ve just been outside on the patio, little monkey decided he would rather sit on the patio chair cover that was hanging down, in the cold, so I lured him in with kong cheese paste 🤣🤣🐒🐒
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I bought him a kong dragon today which has a squeaky body, a rope twisty bit and crinkly wings🤣 and a “tuff “ stegosaurus toy 🤣🤣
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Oh wow!! He is absolutely gorgeous and adorable! :hearts: :hearts: xx
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Oh wow!! He is absolutely gorgeous and adorable! :hearts: :hearts: xx
I know, isn’t he fab? I grow more in love with him every day xxx thanks xxx
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I love his big rubber nose lol and his sad face have you been beating him? lol he will think he's won the lottery having a lovely new home/owner.
Aww lol no, I know he’s got such sad eyes hasn’t he 💕💕💕 im sure he’s happier than what he looks like 😂 thank you xxx
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oh wow - stop -i,m getting all dogternal, especially as my loaned spaniel returned home yesterday - which means coupled with the fuel man not showing last week - so no stove, a cold non reception when i get home - :cry:- never mind the fish might welcome me with a little dance and a hit from the little mermaid film - or not :rofl:
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