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Bereavement Support Posts => Introduce Yourself To Us All => Topic started by: PetetheRef on January 18, 2019, 11:59:43 PM

Title: Introduction
Post by: PetetheRef on January 18, 2019, 11:59:43 PM

Hi All, I'm Pete from Warrington, Cheshire, came on here for someone to talk to & get some some support so here's hoping.  , my wife passed away on 01.12.18 which made for a pretty crappy xmas, well a crappy 4 years actually 2014 New Years Eve my mum passes away 6 months later my elder brother passes away & 4 years on I lose my wife, the loss of my mum & brother I managed to cope with, but losing my wife I feel like I've lost a limb, anything I look at or pick up of hers I just breakdown, I have never known pain like it.

Title: Re: Introduction
Post by: Emz2014 on January 19, 2019, 07:57:40 AM

Sending you a welcome hug Pete  :hug:  we have members who have lost wives and husbands and I'm sure they will be supportive - along with all our members. Such a recent loss i imagine you're still feeling some shock. The early months are so hard, then the festive period is challenging and I find January tough - I think the dark and cold makes it hard too. Be gentle with yourself, its a rollercoaster but it will get a bit easier

Whatever you want to talk about, we're here, xx

Title: Re: Introduction
Post by: longedge on January 19, 2019, 09:22:29 AM

My sincere condolences to you Pete, the first few months are very grim.

Title: Re: Introduction
Post by: PetetheRef on January 20, 2019, 09:45:43 PM

Thanks for the replies guys, just want the pain to ease & now have the horrible job of going thru her clothing & jewellery which is going to be a killer because to me she could make wearing a bin bag sexy & even when she wasn't at her best I would always tell her she was perfect because to me she was.

Some of the stuff I have bought her jewellery wise i'm going to keep, the costume style stuff I will let the charity shops have as most of it was bought from there anyway as she loved going in them so let them make someone else happy same with her bags & clothes.

Question I want to ask is her ornaments I don't particulay want them as not an ornament person now do I box them up & store them bear in mind I live in a 1 bedroomed flat or box them & pass onto the charity shops maybe keeping a couple for sentimental reasons?

Regards
Pete

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Title: Re: Introduction
Post by: Cathy2018 on January 20, 2019, 10:46:40 PM

Hi Pete

So sorry for you. All I can suggest is that you just take your time to clear your wife’s belongings. It is heartbreaking.

Regards cathy