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Bereavement Support Posts => Please Post In This Bereavement Support Posting Room => Topic started by: marvil296 on March 18, 2016, 08:23:38 PM
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Hi I lost my husband a few months ago. He was my life my best friend and soulmate. We were together 29yrs .I don't think I will ever get over it I feel so alone I miss him so much.
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Hello and welcome Marvil
I moved your post here so it gets seen better and replied too.
It's still very early days for you and 29 years is just forever isn't it,,, Please accept my deepest sympathy, I do know how your feeling and I know it feels like life isn't worth living anymore but you must trust me that it will change and the pain will become bearable, though that's hard for you to believe will happen now.
I promise you if you keep posting we will get you through this very sad time and lend a listening ear when it all seems just to much to go it alone.
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Hello Marvil, my heart goes out to you.
I really do know what you're going through, the loneliness and despair can sometimes be overwhelming.
I lost my lovely wife suddenly a few months ago and she was my life, so I guess we'll be travelling the same path for a while.
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Hi Marvil so sorry for the loss of your husband.
I lost my Paul just over 3 years ago and like you we were together for 29 1/2 years.
You have lost the one person who you would trust with your life, but the pain gets * different * the wanting and missing is always there.
Keep talking to us or in the evenings there is a chat room which we use every night just after 8 you would be most welcome to come and join us.
Take care and be gentle on yourself xx
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Hi Marvil
I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost myHusband only a few months ago. In some ways it still does not feel real, and in other ways it is all too real. This lovely group of people have given me so much love and support, and so much good advice. Hugs. Vicky xx
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I recently lost my husband also. I am so sorry that you also find yourself in this position. I'm just trying to get through one day at a time.
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Hi thanks for your lovely kind words .so sorry for your loss to. I'm aso new to internet .I got given this android tablet as a gift .its been a blessing to me.I struggle to use it sometimes though : :smiley:
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Hi thanks for your lovely kind words .so sorry for your loss to. I'm aso new to internet .I got given this android tablet as a gift .its been a blessing to me.I struggle to use it sometimes though : :smiley:
We are always here to help even with technical issues Marvil, we don't want you or anyone to miss out on any kind of support whatsoever. :smiley:
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My reply is to, Patrick, Toriap, Cairo and Marvil, my heart goes out to you all, your pain is still so raw so i hope you can all find the support you need from the site, im sure you will all find it helps to post as much in here as you need to, opening our hearts to people who understand how your feeling is easier than opening to friends and family because we dont want to upset them. So please keep talking to us, i lost my hubby suddenly 19 months ago, life is easier for me now but i do still get bad patches were i struggle through, but i do know i wouldnt be where i am now if i hadnt had the support of BUK, its been my lifesaver and still is. (((Hugs))) to you all.
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Thank you so much. Been having a tough weekend. The first on my own, although I did manage to meet a couple of friends for lunch today.
This evening I found several of George's friends and students had posted photos and video of him on Facebook. It's lovely to know how much he was liked and will be missed but it has made me very tearful. It's all beginning to be real that he is never coming home again.
My old dog is very ill as well. She's lying outside this evening and didn't want to come in the house which I think is a bad sign. I'm so worried about her and it reminds me of worrying about my husband, although it never occurred to me he would die. I was just worried that he was going through such a painful experience.
Been drinking too much wine as well but it helps a bit. Tomorrow I have to go back to work although only 4 hours so no more wine tonight or I'll have a hangover. I know I have to go through this pain but it's very hard, isn't it?
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Hi Cairo.
I do so feel for you and as a big time dog lover with two dogs of my own I can understand the stress and apprehension you are feeling.
I know the wine helps but not the hangover, so don't dehydrate which gives you the headache and force some water down yuk lol.
Thinking of you be strong.
Dave. :smiley:
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My sympathy to you Cairo. I understand what you are going through. Our dog collapsed twice in two days the week after my wife died and I had to take her to the vets where she was put to sleep. I was numb before I went to the vets and in the surgery I couldn't speak. I came out of there in a daze and the only comfort I could find was to think that at least "Mummy" hadn't had to suffer the loss (she was my wife's pet to be honest). We are remarkable aren't we, the way that we manage to survive the unbearable.
p.s. - I'm the same when it comes to the red wine, I do force myself to have several 'dry nights' each week though when I make do with a large mug of cocoa :laugh:
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I took her to the vet last night and she was put to sleep in my car as she hated going into the surgery. To be honest, I'm not sure she even knew where she was but I wanted to reduce any trauma. I'm not sure she would have lasted much longer.
Having watched my husband suffer I couldn't bear to see my dog suffer and she had incurable kidney failure as well as a heart problem. My main feeling last night was of relief that she was not in pain and that I wouldn't be awake all night worrying about her. I did weep but some of the time I also feel numb. I think it's too painful to deal with.
I know what you mean about being glad your other half wasn't there to get upset. Lots of people have told me that she went to join George and it would be lovely to think they were playing together somewhere. I don't really believe they are but it's a comforting thought that they might be ...
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Sending a hug, :hug: be gentle with yourself xx
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I just want to die
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So sorry
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I just want to die
Iain Their isn't one member here who at some time through their bereavement haven't felt this way.
Talking about it will so help you, so please share everything that is breaking your heart and we will be here for you to listen and support you all the way I promise.
Start your own new topic so it makes it easier for us all to follow you.
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I just want to die
Ian - I know. A virtual arm round your shoulder mate.
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Iain making your first post is a major step forward and Dave is right you are not alone with that feeling.
Please start a new topic so more people will see it and have more understanding of what has happened.I promise you will find support here, we are all at different stages of what is a horrendous journey, so we do understand how it feels.I came here five years ago, saying pretty much the same thing having googled for help in the early hours, and i am so glad i found this site just the very act of writing things helped even though it also sometimes ended with the damm bursting, people here are really lovely, and many i now consider as real friends.
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I took her to the vet last night and she was put to sleep in my car as she hated going into the surgery.
Cairo what sad news about your beloved girl, i'm so sorry and can't help admire you for your courage to free her from her pain.
I have a little section on the main website Tributes to loved ones, which links to "If you've just lost a pet" and wonderful little sort of prayer that even if your not religious has lovely meaning. Yes it will make you cry but the sentiment is worth it. Big hugs. xx
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To Cairo. So sorry for you about your beautiful dog.I've got a. Westie he gives me comfort .since I lost my husband.So sad for you that you lost both of them.they will be looking after each other in heaven I believe.take care .treasure all ur happy memories .marvil. Sending you a hug.
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Thank you so much. We had two dogs. The one L've just lost was the mother but I still have her daughter, who is 8. She looks so sad some of the time. She has never been parted from her mother before for more than a day, but luckily my brother and his wife are staying with me for a week and their dog is here too so at last she has plenty of human and canine company.
I think next week I'll take her into work with me as she's never been left alone at the house before. We're trying to comfort each other.
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Hi Cairo,so sorry for both your losses.when I lost my husband our dog and I also helped each other.he is fortunately still with me but at 13 years old I do worry for how long.