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Title: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: longedge on April 17, 2016, 11:58:47 PM
...but then as soon as I think that a thought goes through ny head and I'm down again.

For those following in my footsteps, I've found so far that if I can set myself just one or two targets for the week ahead, then I can get through it.
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: Hubby on April 18, 2016, 12:52:57 PM
You have been a lot of help to me over the past few weeks. Offering hope when I can see no future. Some days almost OK sounds a million miles away in these early days.

Stay strong and hopefully those some days will increase. (We done need a man hug icon)
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: Karena on April 18, 2016, 01:16:04 PM
it s a bumpy road with lots of potholes, its a case of adjusting the suspension to make them less savage over time. :hug:
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: longedge on April 18, 2016, 04:16:51 PM
(We done need a man hug icon)

 :laugh: Thanks for that. I've got a big grin on my face now. I'm a right 'bloke' most of the time (or have been until Chris died) and one of the things that implies is not saying a lot about your feelings, in fact not saying a lot full stop  :smiley:.

It's easy to look the other way and almost as easy to just mumble a few platitudes in the way that we all hear from a lot of people but it's far more difficult sometimes to express what you truly feel. It's good to know that occasionally I 'strike the right chord' and manage to say what I feel in a way that is also helpful in a small way  :cool:.

One thing I would say about visiting this board is that now and then it's a very painful experience reading about the pain that others are going through. It might sound like an odd thing to say but I am at ease with the fact that what has/is happening to me is the natural course of things. But the tragedies that some have to bear leave me feeling so sad and with such deep sympathy that I come away not knowing if the tears are for me or for others  :hug: my first hug to everyone (I'm not sufficiently unblokey yet to make a habit of it so enjoy this one while it's on offer  :laugh: )
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: Joann on April 18, 2016, 04:31:18 PM
Longedge, sending a big  :hug: back to you. I too am 6 months down the road from losing my Mum and I feel the same that some days are kind of ok but then other days as soon as I open my eyes that feeling settles in the pit of my stomach and I dont want to get out of bed. This forum has been a real blessing to me.
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: Hubby on April 18, 2016, 08:54:35 PM
After reading some peoples first posts I am totally lost and the only thing I can manage is a 'so sorry' type of post. I often type long replies and when I read them back they just look all wrong and I delete them.

You, and others on the boards, seem to be able to post replies that seem right.
Title: Re: 6 months and some days are almost OK now...
Post by: Joann on April 18, 2016, 09:18:50 PM
Hubby, dont worry about typing the 'right' thing. Sometimes I just leave a hug as I cannot find the right words.