I think that you need to do whatever you think would be right for YOU, And though we need to support our children, we also need time to feel our own grief! Although my partner was ill for a couple of years, we were told that his treatment was working, we were given the news that he wasn’t expected to make it on our daughters Birthday!
My youngest daughter was very close to her Dad and she has found it really hard, but is now talking to a friend who has recently lost her Dad.
Yes the mornings are hard at the beginning when you have that brief window of time when you feel okay but then everything comes flooding in. I could sit here and tell you that it will get easier, but I also know that when I was at the point that you’re at, if someone had made that statement to me, I definitely would have said there was no way!
I tend to think of it as something we move through, and there are times when things slide, but I now look back on where I was emotionally at the beginning and where I am now, and though I wouldn’t say I’m there yet, I’m definitely coping better than I was!
I now reflect more on the fact that I will be eternally thankful that my partner and I found one another, and had two beautiful children! It would’ve been nice to have had longer, but it wasn’t to be?!
I also lost my breadwinner, and the practical side of sorting everything out, though daunting, you work it all out eventually.
Be kind to yourself, cry when you need too! Allow your children to feel their emotions. I think the one big mistake I made when my Mum passed was hiding my emotions from my girls, so now we cry together and I tell them how much I miss him, and we share it! It’s early days for you, take things a day at a time!
