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Bereavement Support Posts => Introduce Yourself To Us All => Topic started by: Julie Magson on July 25, 2016, 01:10:17 PM
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Hello everyone, another reluctant member to the club no one wants to be in. I've come here via the FB page. I lost my Husband Alan 11 weeks ago after him being very ill for 2 years and the last 9 months he spent in hospital and never came home. He was so ill and weak that eventually pneumonia gave him release. I am relieved for Alan that his pain and indignities are over and he doesn't have to go through anything medical any more. But for those of us left standing- oh boy. I'm so glad I found the FB page and now have found here as it helps to know that these horrible days and feelings are 'normal' and I'm not going mad.
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Sending you a welcome. :hug: Julie. Xxx
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Thank you Norma.
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:hug:welcome.there will be times when you think you are going mad.I lost my husband five years ago and I still get those times,you never forget or stop loving them but the pain will become less acute and I guess you learn to live with it.the road ahead is a rocky one but we will be here to try and iron it out as much as we can for you.
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Sending a welcome hug :hug: xx
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Hello Julie and welcome. My husband was in hospital for more than 4 months before he died. It was an awful time, watching him so ill but always hoping he would come home again. It took me a couple of years before I was really at peace with the fact that he was now peaceful, all he went through was dreadful and now I know he is OK again, but I was not - I just couldn't believe that after all his years of illness and months in hospital he didn't just get better. I hope now you will be kind to yourself, take your time in finding out what you want from your new life, your peace will come as well in time xx
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Hi Julie. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Thank you for your welcomes, so glad I found here.
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another reluctant member to the club no one wants to be in
Hi Julie,
You're so right there. If only we could turn the clock back to when we were, I don't know 18 or 21yrs perhaps. I sometimes sit for hours fantasizing about having the chance to do that :smiley:
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But would you or could you do anything different longedge, i suspect the answers no. I know i wouldnt wantbto change anything, apart from still having my son and hubby lol but hey ho xx
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But would you or could you do anything different longedge, i suspect the answers no.
Absolutely not - I'd do it all again good times and bad just for the chance to be with Chris again. If I could go back knowing what I know now there would be far more times that I would be more kind and understanding. I've got a lot of regrets and would relish the chance to put a lot of things right but I bet I'm not the only one to think that, truth be know :smiley:
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No you're not the only one to think that,but also you would be creating a false you,and a false life,
They fell in love with us as a whole person just as we did with them,and that has to include our faults and our mistakes because they are part of that whole person.
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I recommend not watching 'About Time' early on in a bereavement. Its a beautiful film but also makes you wish you could do exactly this xx
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Your not the only one George. There are s lot of things I would want to change if I could go back.