Don't rush anything is really good advice,but also don't think that breaking down is some kind of failure,it isn't.Its a roller coaster journey and sometimes it feels like something puts you back at the beginning, but there are no ways to short cut it.
Breaking down is normal,not a set back not a failure,that's what I meant about being kind too yourself .
Those memory's,those photos that make you cry now will in the future also make you smile through those tears,That's what a memory box should be for,but that doesn't mean you can't put them away for a while or go through them a little bit at a time.It was at least a year before I could even open our wedding album.CD,s got put into two racks,Those that were zero risk those that wern,t.But no matter how you try and protect yourself there is always the unexpected.The song on the neighbours radio,a distant view of someone who looks like her,an irrational disappointment when some one comes into a room and its not her.Or something completely random that you didn't forsee.
I don't really prescribe to grief theory's,the idea that we all are the same and we and our grief can be put into a nice little file.But the famous five stages one ends with acceptance.For me acceptance meant accepting grief,and that these things will happen,there will be breakdowns and bad days,I will be impatient with myself for still grieving,I will be tired of grieving,but that's the state of play.If you break your leg,you don't expect to run the next day,you know it takes time to heal,casts crutches , operations casts crutches,physio,falls,faltering steps,slow walks,building up slowly,and possibly always having a limp,With a Brocken leg we accept that,grief is invisible,no cast no crutches but we do need to take time to heal in the same way.