4 months is indeed early in the journey. Sending a welcome hug
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People have a habit of wearing 'masks' around others - so they may look like they are coping fine but may be in turmoil underneath. We all react differently, although lots of similarities.
I know sometimes I couldn't work out what was going on in my own head at times so even though I wanted to talk to others I couldn't find the words.
This place helps, as everyone here understands xx