:hug:it isnt pointless but sometimes it gets so dark we cant see the point,and floundering is part of so many of lifes journeys but this is probably the worst of those - change we didnt want or expect, and which casts us adrift further than any other ever has - its a horrible experience sometimes we feel more like we are drowing than floundering,sometimes it feels like drowning would be the easiest option but even when we cant see it those we have lost remain our life rafts -through their wisdom and our memory of them - its exhausting and we cant even see the shore but there always is one -it might even be the wrong shore we find first an illusion even, and we might have to go back out and flounder again until we see the right one but we will find it in the end.