That's true we do worry and build up stress,but that isn't always negative.I always take our wedding anniversay off work so even that has to have a preplanning element.The first one I didn't know what to do with myself but I knew whatever it was I couldn't try to ignore it.By the second one i had moved and started the garden.There is a secluded corner that i resolved to make a memory corner so on the lead up too it i cleared it out and built a little fountain so that on the day it was ready for planting,I went to buy them in the morning and planted it up in the afternoon so by evening it was done.If I hadn't preplanned I might have just ended up with a heap of tear soaked mud,but having the pre planned programme meant I got through the day and had achieved something positive at the end of it.
I had a little smile earlier reading your post about your Xmas meal timings hubby,it reminded me of my mum.I was doing dinner but my brother and his family were coming.I was making soup but his kids who were frankly a bit bratty would only eat certain brand chicken soup,so my mum said she would bring that and she would make rum sauce for the pudding.Trying to be helpful she heated them up and put them in flasks.Everyone else was having the homemade soup so
only when I got to serving pudding and poured the rum sauce into a jug did I realise how lumpy and odd it looked.
It was chicken soup,she had served rum sauce to the kids.Luckily I had a packet of instant custard in the cupboard.We never mentioned it,and the kids didn't either.Possibly because they slept until home time.She swore it wasn't a deliberate mistake.I only believe her because I know she was obsessed with not wasting food.