I really need some advice. My mum passed away 4weeks ago on Friday and Thursday is my dad's 85th birthday. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore it obviously but I don't want to go down the "have a great birthday" route with knowing it Will feel like hell for him that day. My kids are 4,7,13,18,21 and 10 months. The older ones understand but the littles normally love to do things for Nanny and grandad on birthdays and Christmas. Making cards and little gifts. My birthday is coming up at the end of the month and I know I want to forget it completely, although I can't because of the kids. Any advice? Thanks