if you mean why do we look for somewhere on- line rather than turning to the real world then there are a lot of reasons to do with the death of a loved one why people dont get the support they need in the real world. - Isolation, lack of professional care available ,difficulty expressing feelings to those around us,trying to be "strong" for others and not wanting to "burden" others for example - So like any other self help group we support each other through our shared experiences. Also simply having somewhere to write, as the act of writing in itself is something which can help with the things we are experiencing.
WE could operate in the real world and have live support groups and regular meetings in a real world venue but that would restrict who we could support not only in the physical sense of geography,transport, paying for venues etc but in the way that some people suffer so badly with issues of confidence they would not be able to go too a live meeting like that - i am one of those people, others will get more from those kinds of groups than somewhere like this.
But make no mistake, those of us here have created strong bonds of friendship between us, just like friendships happen in any other group. We are all on a journey which started with a devastating loss of some-one we loved, and that is our "real world", one of pain and grief and we need time to heal and learn how to live with that pain before we can function again in what is the "real world" of other people.
We help each other along with this journey, then reach back and help those who have just joined it, as others did when we were at the beginning of it ourselves , regardless of where they live or their culture or any other differences real world society sees as a means to alienate or control some-one.
Intolerance and disrepect for the others here, is not allowed.
It isnt a dating site or anything else of that nature.
We dont allow links or people offering paid for services of any kind to post here and are not in any way commercially based ourselves.
It is a community, and it is a safe place for people to come when they are at a vulnerable time in their lives, and the "real world" is trying to take advantage of that vulnerability in so many ways, and as administrators we will do everything possible to keep it that way.