Thanks again for the replies
I've had another rough day. I took the dog for a walk to the grave. Had a bit of a conversation and a ruddy good sob at the graveside till I was interrupted by a well meaning passerby checking if I was OK. The shortened sob did it's job and I felt quite calm when I got home.
My youngest brought us subway sandwiches for dinner which filled me up and I spent a bit of time attacking washing up in the kitchen. My eldest daughters boyfriend came down in the morning and they were watching telly.
I cooked a rump steak for Billy, our Jack Russell, because Margaret would always do him one on a Saturday and he has missed out on them the past few weeks. Then I took him out for another walk, still feeling calm.
On the way back, at the end of the road, it hit me. A sudden thought. What is the point of going home when she isn't there anymore? I cried all the way to our gate, went in and sat on the stairs leading up to the path and cried for ten minutes. Then I went inside. I didn't want to cry in front of my daughter and her boyfriend so I went into the front room, hugged the cushion that has Margaret's dressing gown in and sobbed my heart out.
My daughter heard me and asked if there was anything she could do and I am ashamed to say I turned on her. Told her she hadn't done anything all day so why didn't she continue doing nothing. I know this really upset her. I don't know why I did it.
I then took my cushion upstairs and lay on the bed with the radio on. My daughter brought me a cup of tea, I apologised and we had a little cry together. I have been upstairs since listening to classic fm and reading. I am calm again now but so ashamed with myself for snapping at her. I've become some sort of monster