I did a mental health first aid course last year with mental health first aid England. They cover many areas of mental distress and they also cover suicide. Their alarm bells will have gone off when realising you had thought of methods. But it's really good that you answered the questions honestly, you can get the support and help you need.
I lost my dad, 3 years ago now, just after his 59th birthday to a brief battle with cancer. And that devastated me. We were really close, he was like a friend aswell as a dad and he would come stay with me often, we'd go on holiday together in Brixham and go out for days exploring. It has had quite an impact throughout the family, even causing a distance between us and his siblings. I'm not the same person anymore, I have no fear of dying and although I would not make any attempts I'm not scared if something chooses to take me, I almost welcome it in a way. I didn't feel like that before losing my dad. I regularly hope I'd be the next to go (to avoid more painful loss) Having said that, most days are much easier now but I think of my dad daily (trying to make him proud still drives me forward for my goals), some days it makes me sad, others I smile and so glad I had him in my life
I also lost someone to suicide many years ago, it was a bit of a complex situation. My husband had been diagnosed with a serious illness and mentally he found it hard to come to terms with, he left me and we got divorced. The divorce was so painful, losing him. I trusted him 100% and my ability to trust was impacted. Shortly before the divorce was finalised he wrote to me explaining and asking me to take him back. I was so hurt I didn't know how to deal with that. Shortly after the divorce he committed suicide. That has been hard to deal with
Losing our loved ones is so painful, the grief path is a rocky one. But please hold on in there. It will get easier to cope in time, our mindsets do change a bit over the time. I have heard it said that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. The intensity of pain will ease. I know we can't bring your beloved back, but you have your girls and they would be devastated if they lost you. Karena has a beautiful thought, live for the both of you and when you do see her again at that natural time, you'll have lots to share
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