:hug:i dont think they work if your mind is overactive and the trouble is by 2am it is active getting distressed about the fact you arnt asleep and screaming at you to take the pill it craves.Try again for a gradual weanimg off rather than just not take it -can you cut it in half -coupled with a bedtime routine -bath -/hotmilky drink / herbal tea -a sleep spray on the bedding,but if they dont work, get up go to the loo read your book. I find i am much more likely to drop off doing that than i am when i,m lying there worried about the fact i,m not asleep.
Eating you will sort in the end, i think for a long time its the will to eat or bother cooking rather than the ability to do it that is lacking. You will find you can do a lot more than you think -start with simple stuff read the instructions on every packet, buy yourself a basic cookery book -maybe your daughter and you can do it together,then you can laugh together at the things that go wrong and enjoy the things that dont -none of us were born knowing how to cook. Did margaret have a favourite recipe book when my friend died her hubby was determined to perfect her hotpot which she always shared at camping meets as a tribute too her.